Dating anxiety about no friends

[Sugarbear99]

I am wanting to find a love relationship , but am loosing hope , every time I meet someone if I fall for them I get anxiety about not having friends , and it dosent work out and Ime sad again it is a longstanding problem of heartbreak , that I want to change .

[Hidden]

I also feel ashamed of not having friends while in a relationship. It's an awful feeling. Does the person you are dating make it an I or is your own feelings that get in the way?

[Sugarbear99 in reply to Hidden]

Wow thankyou for replying , I actually have tears in my eyes cause I have never spoken about it before , I am not dating anyone right now, but I just feel that they after a while start looking at me like a looser

[gogogirl in reply to Sugarbear99]

You are NOT a loser- in fact you've already seen that there are others who have brought this to light. You have reached out to others , and that is being a winner if we even have to use those terms. Unless you are in school or college getting report cards or progress reports- then life does not issue a report card- it's life, and life can be hard. Glad you came to this site. In the mean time, I hope you engage in more activities so you meet more people.

[gogogirl]

I imagine that you are a young person. Is this you thinking this or is this a requirement for the people you are meeting? People need to accept you as you are not to have you adjust for them. Also, remember if the person likes YOU- they want to see you not necessarily your friends. How about family or are you living away from your home area? I wish you well, and hope you meet more people .

[Sugarbear99 in reply to gogogirl]

Hi , no am in my 50s but never dealt with it cause am strong but am growing weary and frustrated . This is my thinking , it has slowed me down from living a better life for a long time .

[puglove0093]

Hi! If anyone you start to date thinks you are a loser, they have got to go. No one should ever make ANYONE feel that way. Have you tried joining some groups with activities/things you are interested in? That is a good way to meet friends. Have you tried talking to a counselor? I know that helps a lot to talk to someone you don't know and get things off your chest. I am praying for you!