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My heart breaks for my mom, she’s in so much pain and I don’t know how to help her, I just want her to be happy again, she’s been crying all day, I’ve been trying to make jokes, cook and clean but I’ll never be able to give her the happiness she needs, it makes me feel worthless and guilty and like a disappointment to her. I know I can’t fix her but she just needs to be okay, she needs to feel the happiness and goodness in this world bc she is a beautiful soul, how do I show her

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brightbronzexo

I feel the same way about my mom...since her divorce she hasn't been the same, she keeps saying she is ok and she's going to therapy but she still breaks down sometimes and I really wish I could help her 😔

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fauxartist

your a good heart trying so hard, and it's painful to watch someone we love suffer...and no, we can't fix them, don't take that on yourself...it sounds like she really needs help. Has she been diagnosed?....is you mom on any medication....

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sparkle314 in reply to fauxartist

Yea she’s been on different medications over the years but she always denies her sadness and other issues, she has a lot of health issues but never takes care of them, it’s so hard to get her to do anything but work and workout

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hypercat54

Hi how awful for you and your poor mum. You are showing her how much you love her by helping and being there for her. You can't fix her pain but sharing it with someone she loves helps more than you know.

She is an adult and will deal with her own pain in time as we all have to do, but just keep on doing what you are and loving her.

Oh one last thing if you show her how much pain you are in too this will only distress her more so try and stay as cheerful as possible. Ok? x

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sparkle314 in reply to hypercat54

Yea I do try but it’s always been something I struggled with too, we’ve both been depressed and dealing with a lot of the same issues, here worse than mine but I just wished I could lean on my mom sometimes, everyone always says a girl needs her mom but I always felt guilty to lean on her and when I did I felt stupid afterwards and now we’re just drifting apart

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