hopeless and helpless

[Yoopergirlsandra]

I just joing today. This isn’t something I would normally do but I’m feeling very stuck. I’ve been struggling with anxiety and depression I think for the last nine months. I’m very fearful all the time and afraid of everything. My family and friends say I’m not helping myself but I don’t know what to do to help myself. They want me to find some hobbies or friends but I don’t know how to go about doing that. We live in a very secluded small town so I feel like that will be hard to do. All I’ve ever done has worked my whole life until taking care of my mother when she was sick. She has now passed and I feel like I have nothing left, no purpose. No purpose. I’m not really sure even what posting this will do but my good friend suggested I do it.

[Agora1]

Sandra, I'm so glad you decided to post. It will do a lot of good in not feeling so alone.

We all get to a time in our lives when we seem to get lost when the routine of each day is gone. I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Your were a good daughter who cared for her when she was unable to take care of herself. However, the time has come for you to get back to life. This is your opportunity to do some of those things you put off for so long.

Even in a secluded town, you can start with a part time job, go back to school, volunteer, etc. Where ever we live, the wants and needs of people are the same. Life is too precious Sandra to spend the rest of your life feeling hopeless and helpless.

The last 9 months of you feeling this way has to do with being nonproductive. I'm glad your friend suggested joining this support group. This can be an outlet for you in finding out what others do to fill their time. This is a safe place to come to and meet some wonderful people who share their experiences with anxiety/depression and how they cope.

Welcome to your new virtual family. We're glad you're here. xx

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Yooper? Upper peninsula? I knew someone from there. The tales of the snow were brutal.

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I feel the same way. What really helps me is walking. If only for 10-15 minutes it opens up my mind a bit. You may start to do it longer.

[faulhallen]

Welcome to the group Sandra!

I’m glad you took your friend’s advice. While I’m sure it’s not for everyone this site can potentially be a lot of help to people. Everyone I’ve talked to seems to genuinely care and that’s rare in today’s society.

I’m sorry you feel like you don’t have a purpose. That has to be hard for you. I know I don’t know a lot about you but maybe once you heal even just a little bit you’ll begin to realize your purpose in life. It may take a while but stay strong.

I’m sorry to hear about your mother. You’re such a caring and wonderful daughter to have cared for her.

If you ever need to talk there are plenty of people willing to listen. Post as much or as little as you like and I truly hope you find some comfort and help here 🙂

[Yoopergirlsandra in reply to faulhallen]

Thank you also

[Jvicks]

I am from the UP too, live in WI now. 🙂

I understand how difficult the struggle is. It is so frustrating when family gives poor advice! I also struggle with making friends. I just don’t get out much. As for finding purpose, that is a difficult task and will take some time. Take things slowly and try to enjoy simple everyday things, food or nature. I feel like my life has no direction so, I empathize with you! I go to a support group at a local clinic. That has been a big help! Hope you feel better!

[Yoopergirlsandra in reply to Jvicks]

Thank you