Heart break

[Kyle88]

Currently suffering from depression from a heart break. Haven't loved any one this much and it feels so hard letting go. The person in question doesn't want a commitment at the moment but wants to keep in touch but I want more. The more we keep in touch the more I am hurt. This has been on for over year now. I need help

[Agora1]

Kyle88, The hardest thing in life is accepting that everyone is not in the same position at the same time. I know you are hurting but there is nothing we can do to change someone's position in making a commitment if they are not ready.

The help you need at this time is either finding a way to accept her decision for the time being or actually taking a break from the relationship until she can decide what she wants. This will give you some space to heal since the more you keep in touch, the more you hurt. It's not really fair to you for her to keep that wound open by keeping you dangling. It's not fair to you. Love shouldn't have to hurt.

[gerg in reply to Agora1]

Love shouldn’t have to hurt, but to be true it can’t possibly be safe. Being hurt by love is a natural part of the process of love. A lost love makes true love real. I don’t think that there is a participation trophy for love. Love takes wins and losses to make us truely feel love.

[Kyle88]

Thanks all for your replies...... I had gone through allot of literatures on line, they give similar advice as you have, but it really hasn't been easy. All I do is think allot about this person, and like I said, its been going on for over a year now. I had sometimes had thoughts of suicide cause I feel I can not find love like this before...... Am just scared of losing this person, but somehow it feels I have already......