I am super lonely and lost

[finallyfree77]

HI... i am new here and i would like to make some genuine friends in my life. i am 22, in medical school and so far i don/t have any friends due to my social anxiety. i am an only child and i lost my dad last year.i am studying far away from home and i could n/t even attend my dads funeral. the loneliness i now feel is overwhelming. i have inferiority complex and i have no one to talk to/ i would really appreciate a friend who could support me and hand in hand to get back at life for all its rid us of.

[bridder01]

Hiya FinallyFree! You've come to right place! You are not alone. There are plenty of wonderful people here to talk to and help you through it. Never be afraid to ask for support here. We've got your back!

Sincerely,

Brian

[finallyfree77 in reply to bridder01]

thank you so much for your care.

[Hidden]

At the age of 22 going to medical school(stress) & losing your father (grieving) that can take a toll on a person, just would like to say congrats on medical school and my condolences to the loss of your father. As Brian said, please feel free to speak openly on here. I can honestly say its been therapeutic for me.

[finallyfree77 in reply to Hidden]

thanks so much i must admit this is really comforting.

[Anneva]

You are not alone. I've been suffering this same thing and have tried a lot of different things. Exercise helps and try to get out,

Join a church. You can meet a lot of nice people/activities if you find the church that is right for you.

Therapy helps

God bless all of us lonely people. Prayers work too

A lot of people on this planet are lonely

[finallyfree77 in reply to Anneva]

thanks dear i was part of the choir in church with really nice people who were genuinely interested in my well-being, but i always felt so awkward and inadequate i left.

[fauxartist]

I am very sorry for your loss finallyfree77, and am sorry your feeling so isolated, but here you can have good friends, your not alone, these are very kind and caring people here. Keep sharing and if you read some of the others posts it will also help you relate to people who have been working and coping with similar feelings too.

[finallyfree77 in reply to fauxartist]

thank you so much

[jkl5500]

I am very sorry about the loss of your father.

Isolation and loneliness are scary and crushing feelings. In the past I have experienced the same things that you're going through now. We are social creatures by nature, and it hurts when that need isn't met.

You must be very accomplished academically to get into medical school, so you certainly aren't inferior in that area of your life. I'll bet you're very competent in most areas of your life if you're that good of a student. It shouldn't be too hard to meet others with similar interests at med school, since you're all there for the same reason.

You're welcome to post here or message me anytime. I wish you the best in your studies.

[finallyfree77 in reply to jkl5500]

thank you...yeah but when you are going through all that stress in medical school its hard to feel that way

[Dubba61]

Hello, finallyfree. I'm Socially anxious too. I do have a few friends though and you will find many kind and supportive people here. I am so sorry you lost your Dad. I lost mine more than 20 years ago n i miss him still. As for an inferiority complex, you must be highly intelligent to be at Med school and I'm sure you have no reason to feel inferior. Have you tried the online hypnosis or Mantras. I find them very helpful if I'm feeling particularly stressed. My best wishes to you 😊🌻✌️

[finallyfree77 in reply to Dubba61]

Awwwww and i thought grieving gets easier with time, that has been my only hope since its been a year and it still feels as painful. Thanks so much for your kind words😊

[Dubba61 in reply to finallyfree77]

Oh, it does get easier, definitely! But, it is still there, in the background.i lost my Mum last year n we can't replace our Mums n Dad's. Life moves on, because it has too. The only way is forwards. And no one's parents would want them to stay sad. 😊✌️🌻

[pink83737]

I have terrible social anxiety to its not fun! I blush too from it! I hate is so much !!! You aren’t alone we’re all in this together. The more you gave your fears the easier it becomes

[finallyfree77 in reply to pink83737]

Thank you so much😊...how do i get it across to people around me tho

[DustinS85]

Hello! If ya want a friend I'd be glad to! I feel for you with your father, and I am sorry for that.

[finallyfree77 in reply to DustinS85]

hello thank you....where next from here

[DustinS85 in reply to finallyfree77]

I dunno. You can open a chat on here and get to know each other as friends and so forth.

[DustinS85 in reply to finallyfree77]

I will respond later if you do it right now though. Going to sleep LoL.

[Runell1024]

I can be someone to talk to from time to time.

[finallyfree77 in reply to Runell1024]

awww thank you so much

[gogogirl]

You're in medical school??? All I can say is wow- you are very accomplished. You are living far away from home so that is a real whammy. Feel free to talk about yourself- for instance what is your specialty? Clearly , your abilities are in Math and Science so that in itself is quite an accomplishment along with perseverance. I hope also that you find some free time to breathe and listen to some music or go to a museum for instance. Thank you for your post.

[finallyfree77 in reply to gogogirl]

Thank you so much gogogirl for these wonderful words of encouragement, although i must admit I dont feel that sense of accomplishment as others may predict that i would.(cos all you feel is the stress and torture!!!) I am still doing general medicine and in my third year so i am still keeping an open mind as to which specialty i would want.Its just too much most times.I am just so grateful for this site and people like you.😊

[gogogirl]

May I also say I am sorry for the loss of your father- I know that can be very hard as we only get one. Feel free to vent about that also. It sounds like you and your father shared a special bond.

[finallyfree77 in reply to gogogirl]

We did

[menagerie11]

Hello finallyfree77. I am sorry about the loss of your father. Losing someone who has been such a fundamental part of our lives for all of our lives is a huge loss. We don't really "get over it"....we learn how to live without that person's physical presence in our lives. I lost my father and mother a number of years ago, and I still occassionally have "grief attacks". However, with time, they become less intense and less frequent. It's still early days in your grieving process, so be kind to yourself. Regarding social anxiety, have you considered taking a Cognitive Behaviour Therapy program for it? CBT can be very helpful and effective in overcoming social anxiety. There are also on-line tools and programs that you can access. Just be gentle and patient with yourself. You have a lot on your plate. Sending positive thoughts and virtual hugs.

[finallyfree77]

Awwww i am so sorry, i hope at least you live with people you love, It clearly has not been at all easy for you. I tried CBT once but i couldn't commit to schedule because i was always busy.I have downloaded so many self help books but they feel a bit distant in my opinion, because I learn all the techniques to reduce my anxiety but in real life, i just panic, and get disappointed in myself.Thank you so much for your care, trust me just few people in my real life actually do.