Hi, I’m in my twenties, I’m young I should be able to be normal right? I am dealing with a lot of social anxiety and depression. I don’t feel like doing anything but staying in bed and doing my own thing. I’ve always felt this way for many years and there never is a solution. Never ending cycle. I feel like it is now a part of me that can’t be rid of. I just sometimes wish I could be more ‘normal’ you know go out, enjoy myself , make friends and just have fun but it’s a tedious task for me and overwhelmingly difficult. I think I might have autism all the signs point to it but this is only a self diagnosis. I’m invited to go out and I feel like it’s out of pity because I don’t go anywhere but I really don’t wish to go out but am being told I’m rude and be sitting at home all day doing nothing I’m just being lazy as I’m told and there’s no reason for me not to go but no one knows I m dealing with a lot and idk I have no friends, no one to talk to and no social life. I think I find comfort in being alone as you don’t have to impress anyone and there’s no pressure for you to act a certain way. I know ‘distractions’ are meant to help but that’s a short effective solution not long term. Just finding it hard at the moment any comments regarding this are much appreciated. Thank you for responding.
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I could be your Grandma, or Great Grandma, but I can offer you the "wisdom" of my age, & the ages. I say, Go Girl to that invitation. You can't know what's in other people's minds, and they most likely invited you because they Wanted you there, and not out of pity! The only way to break the "never ending cycle" is to just Break the cycle by doing, by accepting the invitation. Now, I know that it's Not easy, I know as I have suffered for years with Panic Attacks, OCD, & general over worrying. And, in "my time" there was NO help of any kind, or no proper help. But, nuff about myself. The only way to break through your fears is to Fact them. And, you might be Awful, out of place, anxious, etc. but & this is SO true many others Feel Exactly as you do --they just may hide it better, and believe me, they want to make a good impression, be liked, etc. just as you do. And, who knows, you many meet others there that you will "click" with. And, even if it doesn't work out all that well, you will feel good bc you tried, and the next time, and the next, it will become easier. It may be easier to just stay home, but that won't get you what you want & deserve -- friends, connection, people to relate to --What we all want at any age! I hope you don't think that I am preaching to you, don't mean to. If you don't already have a therapist, there are many who deal with social anxiety. Hugs, & keep us all posted.
I understand what you are saying. I am in my early 30s and i am similar to you. I dont like going out of the house, i am invited to hangout with family and i just dont have the energy to deal with their happiness i dont want to put on a okay face or act like im okay when im far from it. My anxiety and depression make me emotionally and physically tired quickly. And i feel super drained when i am around people. My Family dont understand me either
How do you deal with feeling this way? Because I’m in the same boat and could do with some help. Sending hugs and healing your way!! hope things get better for you!!
I just take it one day at a time. And try to not think to much, when i think alot, my depression and anxiety get worse to the point i make myself neasous. So i try to keep myself busy and when i feel drained i make sure to get quiet time and to take a nap. Sometimes a short nap helps me relax
How are you today? I especially enjoy the weather outside nowadays but what I wanted to say is hang in there. I feel very much like you. Only I went through a whole lifetime w these problems. Where I am barely taking a step back and realizing something about me whether that be my personality, introversion, autism--- something about me socially is not right. Where you have a whole life ahead of you. You are not alone. I hope you have a good day.
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I have no friends, no one to talk to and no social life. I think I find comfort in being alone as you don’t have to impress anyone and there’s no pressure for you to act a certain way. I know ‘distractions’ are meant to help but that’s a short effective solution not long term. Just finding it hard at the moment any comments regarding this are much appreciated. Thank you for responding. 
Forced to live
Don’t want to be here anymore
I don’t know what to do anymore 
I can’t do this anymore! 
Help me
