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Longing for my old life


Until 6 months ago I had a pretty good life even though I suffered from daily anxiety I thought I had it under control. I became physically unwell and have not recovered. I have been off work for 4 months and miss my friends and the routine. I'm worried about how I'm going to pay the bills. Hardest thing is not being the wife and mum I should be because o feel unwell a lot of the time. I don't want to be forced to give up work as I will have to sell my house but I can't get the sickness under control. Dr doing what they can but I have a vestibular disorder with migraines which is hard to control. Just needed to let my sadness and deep sense of loss of my past happy life😢😢 thanks x

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I cannot tell you how sorry I am your going through this, I posted on another one of your posts as well in response to some of your health issues. I do understand probably more than a lot would. I did have to stop working because of the cluster migraines and fatigue than came with menopause....I did end up selling my house. I could no longer do the physical work for fear of having a cluster migraine attack in the middle of a job that I was contracted to do...no getting around it...I was done. Now...my friend....I will tell you....yes...you are going to have to plan for change, it's one of the hardest things I had to do in my life....but I survived, and so will you....your a survivor. I was also doing this huge change of life with depression and anxiety, blah blah also with the other stuff....but somehow...some way...and not without a few bumps in the road...we managed, you will too. Before you get to far down about this, start planning how your going to work your life around your limitations. I am in my sixties now, and had to do this about 9 years ago, start my life over from scratch....it was not easy...but you can do it. You may not know now, but you will find a way. Today I just get by financially, but we do get by and have what we need...we are all okay.

CazO46 in reply to fauxartist

Thank so much for the post, it means a lot to me. Taking one day at a time right now but worried for my husband and kids too, it's a big change for us all. They are used to me doing so much and being there for them but right now every day is a struggle. Hopefully I can push on thru and get it under control. I'm glad you are a bit better now, it gives me hope X

fauxartist in reply to CazO46

it's okay to let them take some of the load too, mom's usually do most of the heavy lifting, but it's okay to distribute the weight too...

CazO46 in reply to fauxartist

Teaching my husband how to cook.... some interesting combinations! But I'm not complaining , he's stepping up and I'm grateful X

Hello, sorry your brain is letting you down, I have had sever anxiety, panic attacks & depression. They are all related. Please go and talk to your Dr. or a Psychiatrist, there are medications that can help you. I am on a low dose of Buspar, I also have Lorazepam which helps with the anxiety. I also take an antidepressant.

I understand your feelings, but Please do not blame yourself. Be good to You, relax when you can, play with your children,get your husband to take a walk with you, or some one you know. But do not tell others what is happening to you - as few people understand our illness. See if there are support groups in your area. Consider a therapist who specializes in depression/anxiety.

Do fun things for yourself that take your mind off of your illness, I do coloring books (for adults) word puzzles,knitting, there are games on the computer, I select TV programs that will not bring on anxiety/panic, ditto with my fictional reading.

Hope this is of help to you. I send you Love, Big Hugs,Peace - Sprinkle 1. ***

p.s. Write to us, we will give you Love & Support, even advice if you want it. xxx

CazO46 in reply to Sprinkle1

Thank you so much it means a lot to me. I do what I can to stay positive, can't physically do too much as my balance is poor but hopefully it will improve , thanks again for your kindness X

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