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[Aadigu]

I have been dealing with anxiety and depression for the past 30 years. I am 63 years old and was laid off from my job last August. Since then I have been having a tough time keeping my Anixity under control. Over the past 6 months I have experienced health and financial issues and I have had a relapse. I do see a Doctor who is prescriptivists me my meds which if I weren’t taking them I would be in worse shape.

I am at my ropes end with this disorder, but I am trying to move on but it’s tough. My family is now feeling the effects because I have gone back into isolation which I know makes things worse but at this time I am unable to stop it.

Thanks

[pink83737]

I know the feeling of the isolation you said, but please know it does and it will get better! Yes there will be times where it’s gonna be hard but those moments don’t last forever. Keep hanging on everything will be okay! You got this, remind yourself that.

[Celtic27]

Hi there sorry to hear your having such problems your redundancy has been the catalyst to heighten your anxiety and depression! Have you been to your doctor recently if not it may help he may just adjust your dose or change you medication especially if youve been on them for a long time it's a pain when your meds stop working but you can do something about it you control your own future so invest in yourself now and get well soon! Try and reach out to your family even if it takes you time to get an mobclose again as I've found out you get better quicker if you've got a good support network I hope you can move on from here good luck and best wishes David 🙏

[Kat63]

I was in a similar situation myself not too long ago. 55 y.o. and a lifelong struggle with depression and anxiety. I was fired from my job in January. I did find something else by May. But this situation ripped the lid off my anxiety and I really did think I was going insane.

I can also relate to the part about how your going into isolation affects your family. A few years ago, my live-in boyfriend went through a period of depression, and he isolated a lot. I just couldn’t handle it; my scared inner child took over at that point. So, *please* try to talk to the people who love you and let them know you still love them. It’s important.

[Aadigu in reply to Kat63]

They have been dealing with me and my condition and they are frustrated because they can't help. I don't want to continue to be the through the eups and downs I go through. It's betsnI let them live their lives without me in thiers.

This will eventually pass and then reappear and they will deal with it again. It's not fair to them and my grandchildren to have a grandparent that is in their lives and then disappears.

[Agora1 in reply to Aadigu]

Aadigu, they may be frustrated because your family cares. No one likes to see

their loved ones suffering. Life isn't fair but believe me they would much rather

you be in their lives then not have you there at all. Not a day goes by that I don't

miss my dad. He didn't have choices, an accident took him from his family.

Embrace the up times you have with your family and grandchildren. Those are the

times they will remember their whole lifetime. We, your virtual family, are here

for you during those down times. We understand and we care. xx

[sajax in reply to Kat63]

This is what happened to me. Getting fired made my anxiety go nuts even though I found another job I’ve taken all the worrying with me

[Aadigu in reply to sajax]

I don't know if this was the first time you lost your job, but I have worked in Corporate America form the past 34 years and over that time I have either been laid off or was going to be.over that time period I have worked for four companies. So, living the Amican nightmare as I like to refer to it because it wasn't a pleasant dream the anixety of losing a job stayed with me at each new position, and I knew that I would never make it to full retirement because part of this nightmare and being to old to work for a corporation. I never was able to the money I because I saved every penny I could for the day when I would be laid off for the final time and had to survive until I was in a position to collect my retirement investments.

This past 9 months since I was laid off have been the worse part of the nightmare. Losing a lot of my retirement on surprise expenses. The nighmare continues.

I don't know how old you are but you may want to read this becusemitmmaymhelp will give insights on why the dream has turned into a nightmare.

Article - How the American Dream turned into a Nightmare - and where it is now. Author - Leveret Pale

[sajax in reply to Aadigu]

I’m gonna read it. My anxiety is horrible. All I can think about is not being able to do a good job or getting fired

[Aadigu in reply to sajax]

I have been there. All I can say from my own experience is you go in and do the best you can. Good luck.

[Spaz119]

I’m 52 and lost my job in November. The anxiety did rev up and I get so sick of people not understanding that sometimes it’s easier to stay away from them even though you feel so alone 😞 other times it’s good to get away from yourself and be with others.

There’s always us to vent to!

[KrierandRosie]

I am 66, but have no family. Husband and two huskies. Be grateful your family is there. I isolate myself because I am tired of trying to befriend people. The human race is not much to rely on. Mix that with anxiety and depression and it is very tough.

[Pat9]

No wise words but know your not alone 😘💖