How the heck?

[arnoldpalmer]

I just graduated college, I just got engaged, and I just started a new job and all this in the past 10 months. Cool, right? I know I need to be thankful; I know my life is good. Except I feel sad. I feel sad a lot. I work night shift, 7p-7a, and I work every other weekend. I feel tired all the time, alone, isolated, overwhelmed, stressed. I cry more than I ever have. And the list of wedding planning to-do’s keeps becoming more and more daunting. I’m not sure what to do or where to start. I can’t seem to get out of this- feeling like I never want to get out of bed, never want to go anywhere. I’m sick of being alone and sick of feeling sorry for myself. How to do I snap out of this? How do I be happy again? Things that I used to be interested in and things that used to make me smile just don’t work anymore.

[jkl5500]

You're going through a very stressful phase of your life! But the symptoms you mentioned sound like the beginnings of depression. Have you seen a doctor about this?

[Marc787 in reply to jkl5500]

Hello, I went through what your feeling now. Sorry that your experiencing this. Sounds like depression. It's normal that we go through this in some part of our lives. Life can get hard at times and sometimes it's hard to keep ourselves balanced mentally and physically. Our brain or subconscious will let us know in weird ways that we have to take care ourselves. I can suggest easy walks around your neighborhood or somewhere in nature, alittle exercise that you like, hobbies that make you feel good, be mindfulness in the present when your doing these things. Its going to be hard because it feels like a major chore to do the simplest thing. And you have no motivation, but we have to get our bodies moving and mind distracted away from work, school, etc. Get our endorphins going in our brain Naturally is the best thing. You can see a Doctor to diagnose what your feeling most likely they will prescribe you anti depression meds. For me I don't like medications they give alot of side affects. If your struggling with what your feeling and can't get out of this dark hole. Find a good therapist that specialize in depression, anxiety, etc. That can help you. It will take time to get better. Good luck.

[arnoldpalmer in reply to Marc787]

Thanks so much for responding. I appreciate your thoughts and advice!

[arnoldpalmer in reply to jkl5500]

I haven’t, no, not yet anyway. Wondering if a therapist would be a better route for me? That sounds like an easier route but maybe I should tell my doctor... Thanks for your feedback!

[jkl5500 in reply to arnoldpalmer]

It's just a question of how badly this is affecting your life. If you can carry on pretty well, then maybe the more natural route that was suggested would work. But if you're having trouble functioning, I strongly advise you to see your doctor. It's your call; only you know exactly how you're feeling.

[fauxartist]

you are just doing too much.....your working all the time....weddings are a monster amount of planning....get some help.....elope if you have to.... the pressure would squash any one, no one is super human, not on this planet anyways...can you delegate some of the wedding stuff to friends and family, can your ask you boss for a few less hours, do what ever it takes or your going to implode from the stress....take care of yourself.

[arnoldpalmer in reply to fauxartist]

I’ve thought about eloping, yes... but too many people are planning on this day and I want to see all my family and friends too! I just wish the wedding was in a few days instead of a few months. Can’t work any less either unfortunately since I’m full time. Definitely going to try and delegate some wedding tasks, thanks so much for the advice!

[JLH96]

Well first off congratulations. Second it’s totally okay to be overwhelmed. Maybe you could hire a wedding planner or have the groom get more involved in the planning? Also does your partner know you are feeling this way? Talking to someone and getting my feelings out has always helped me

[arnoldpalmer in reply to JLH96]

I did recently tell him a few weeks ago, and he’s been really helpful and supportive. But that’s made me feel worse that I’m so emotionally unstable. Would definitely consider hiring someone to plan the wedding, just struggling with another added cost to an already expensive day! Plus a lot of the big decisions are made, which is good. Now just a lot of little things to pick out. Thanks so much for your support and thoughts. I appreciate it!