I lost my baby

[efoster3]

I lost my baby about two months ago. My depression had gotten better before this happened. Now, it’s like all I can think about. I don’t know how to stop. Sometimes I just cry. Sometimes I really want to hurt myself but i stop myself. It’s just frustrating.

[gerg]

Grief is a powerful thing. It is a really necessary part of our existence. It takes time, it is a process.

This post is part of the process. I hear you. I feel for you. I want your pain to go away, but only if it is done serving you.

We would not be human without the emotions that you are feeling. The pain will lessen, it always does. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[fauxartist]

I am so very sorry for your loss efoster3....this is a terrible tragedy that never makes sense. My heart breaks for you, and there are no words anyone could possibly say to make you feel better in your time of grief. I'm very glad your sharing here, and know that the people here are very kind and caring....what little comfort that is, please keep sharing.

[efoster3]

I lost him/her early on. I was only 10 weeks. But I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks. I had gotten so excited and my boyfriend was also excited. I found out a week before my birthday.. I was devastated. It was my first pregnancy. And it was ectopic. If you don’t know. That means the baby was growing outside of my uterus. My first one. Any pregnant from now on will be complicated. That’s even if I can have any.. it’s just made me feel so much worse.

[Mena2603]

I am so sorry for your loss. and I know exactly how you feel I went thru the same thing I lost my first baby at 4 months for no rhyme or reason and my second at 12 weeks to it being eptopic. It's hard to at first I know. Things will get better. It truely takes time and a lot of tears.

[efoster3 in reply to Mena2603]

Thank you. They didn’t really explain to me what effect it would have on me mentally. So I just haven’t been prepared for it.

[Mena2603 in reply to efoster3]

Yep I know, I think they think only 10 weeks no biggie. And let's be honest it is. And it hurts like hell.

[efoster3 in reply to Mena2603]

It definitely does. All people keep telling me is, “Everything happens for a reason.” But these people have never even been pregnant so they don’t understand.

[gerg in reply to efoster3]

Things happening for a reason is true, but that is little comfort just after a loss. Sometimes people don’t have any other insight to a specific issue. They don’t mean you any harm, and I think that there is some danger in them saying anything. The problem with that is that you then may read the nothing as something worse.

In many cases others don’t know how you are feeling. You have to let them know, you have to set the boundaries, this stuff is difficult for all involved.

[Hidden]

Nothing could prepare you for this loss, physically n mentally you are obviously going to feel overwhelmed, my heart goes out to you, if I could I would hold you tight and tell you that although it doesn't seem possible right everything will be ok, you'll get through this and you'll survive and be ok, much love and hugs xxxxx and keep talking because it does help xxxx

[efoster3 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I’ve noticed that talking about it has helped me cope with a lot.