I think my wife has anxiety disorder, but I don't know how to start conversation about that.

[kain-pnw]

I have been married for 14 years and I never knew what it was. Once a week or two, she's angry at me and pour hateful remarks and won't talk to me for a couple days to a week or so, an then come to me and talk as if nothing happened. She shut off all her relationships, including me. My affection has gone a long time ago and decided to divorce. Now, I realize it must've been anxiety disorder. I don't know how to start conversion about it.

[fauxartist]

Is she in therapy...if not...that would be a good place to start....then when the time is right...couples counselling. If would not hurt for you talk to someone about what your going through too and find coping mechanisms to survive the rants and how to address them....

[MissingSoul]

Honestly, I am not married but I did the same thing with everyone around me. It took me a while to accept I needed help and that is the first step. In my case, I had to understand with actions, not words. For instance, when I was really rude or I would shut down someone, I will keep my pose until I was alone and only after I would think how far I went. It still didn't make me change my attitude but not because I didn't want to but because I couldn't. I could barely manage not to scream all the time, much less understand other people's needs. I only allowed people to talk about it when I felt comfort. Real comfort. Have you tried telling her how you feel? And if so, sometimes people respond better to a letter than confrontation. I suggest if you love her and want to save your marriage, open your heart out. Write your feelings and make sure she understands it. Show her that It doesn't matter how bad it is, but that you will be there for her.

I am no expert, my advice is simply that, an advice from my bad experiences. But I hope it would shed some light and help you reach out to her...

[guynfl2chat]

It can be a few different things. Anxiety and maybe some bi-polar or depression. She may not even realize that she is acting this way. The only way to discuss her feeling would be to see if she would like to talk to a therapist. It can be a difficult thing to accept and she maybe resistant. I am not sure this would work, but you could record her the next time she acts up and play it when she is calmer.

[km147]

coming from someone who suffers from anxiety, i would want compassion and understanding. you are married. there is no one else except you who should be talking to her about something so personal and intimate. i also lash out at people. it's a defense mechanism. it's my frustration with myself that i am concomitantly taking out on a family member. don't underestimate her. start that conversation. you seem like a really caring person given the fact that you came on here to discuss you concerns. on a side note, it may not actually be a disorder. consider possible stresses in her life, anything different happening lately. you know her best, so i think you should know how to approach this because it's different with every person. we need more compassionate and understanding people in this world like you. good luck and im sure you will figure it out!

[Godislove_46]

I'm sorry to hear you are having trouble communicating with your wife on here emotions. It's not an easy thing. I would encourage you to maybe try sitting down with her in a calm setting (over coffee, tea, ice cream) something that she enjoys doing and bring it up then. She could also be suffering from imbalanced hormones. Maybe explain that you are concerned about her well being and want to support her emotionally. Hug her and say when you are having a bad day or feel overwhelmed I'm here for you and you can always lean on me. Take a walk together. Listen to her favorite song together. Think of little things that will make her smile. Even a little love note. She would appreciate it in the long run. Good luck!