Need to talk but don't know how

[Feonix]

Who do I go to to get help, my doctor just gives me pills and sends me on my merry way. I need real help I can't talk to people, I'm not even sure what's wrong so how can I talk about it when I don't know what's going on in my head. What do I do?

[EleanorRose]

Which country are you in?

I’m in the UK and may be able to direct you to some places for support if that’s where you are, too.

Sounds to me like you perhaps need some sort of talking therapy - counselling, CBT etc.

Talking therapy, with the right therapist, is so much more than ‘talking’ and they are trained to ask the right questions, to help you to work out what your issues are together and to help you find ways to solve them. You don’t have to know what to say straight away.

I’ve seen therapists a few times and it does help to find one you have a good connection with and trust. The ‘therapeutic relationship’, as it’s known, is really important. Every time I’ve had therapy, I’ve spent the first couple of sessions not really talking, not knowing exactly what to say but it somehow works out. I’m having therapy at the moment and there are still things now I find myself realising/saying that I didn’t know at the beginning.

You don’t need to have the answers right now, just the courage to take that first step and give it a go.

[hypercat54]

I note you are in South Africa and I haven't a clue what the system is there. Can your doctor send you for counselling? Or do you need to find it privately. This might help you. x

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Your Doctor needs to refer you, for CBT ask if that can help

Make a list of your problems when you attend your Doctor appointment this will help you remember what is wrong with you

What medication has been prescribed ? How long have you been on this drug ?

You need to give the drug time to work, upwards five weeks. i understand you live in Africa. If this is the case it may be a good idea to ask your health insurance company to refer you. I am sorry to say I am at a total loss how your health system works

BOB

[20_Adhder]

Like everyone said : CBT

Next appointment Ask your doctor to recommend a phycothearby. Another plan if you're in university or even if you're not. I don't know about your country but i think all universities have a clinic which even who is not a student can use. There are always many psychologists there

[laylayla]

Hi Feonix, I was in exactly the same situation and I’m not sure it’s really over. I didn’t know what the actual f*** was going on in my head, but I could see that there was something that wasn’t like in the others. I really hate the idea of taking pills, and probably will never take them so I really am scared to go to get help. What I did is do research about different mental problems that could affect me, to have an idea, to know I’m not broken... today I told my Mom that I was considering the possibility that I suffer from anxiety and tried to explain how I felt in the bad moments. I have to say that just by reading what people had to say on this community makes me feel better about myself, because I don’t feel so alone. This gave me the strength and courage to speak about myself.

I hope this is helpful to you😘

[Strive2Thrive]

Find a psychologist, not a psychiatrist. I had to search for one who specifically dealt with anxiety and OCD. I found him and he never even mentioned pills. He believed that my issues could be resolved without them and I believe he's correct.

Best of luck to you. Sending healing.