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I lost everything important to me and i feel completely alone.

EpicForex
EpicForex
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Hi. I am a 24 year old girl with no one. I feel completely alone. I don't have a mom, dad, brother or sister. My mom had only me and she passed away in 2013, cancer. I never knew my dad but i heard he died long ago, he had me alone also. I only have a grandma, two uncles and one of them we don't get along. I was abused as sexually harassed as a child 3 times. There are lots of things that happed to me and I've been able to keep it together. Now i feel like i have reached my limits. I have so much fear. I have fear. I have trust issues. I feel alone. I thing about death and dying more than anything else. Today i spent the whole day in the house alone. I don't have any friends. Even when i try to go out to movies, i go alone and its a difficult thing to do. I just wanna be happy and belong. I want to have people who care. I am a hard worker. I have a degree at the top university and i am working. That should make me proud but there's something huge missing. Help

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Agora1

I may be a stranger to you, but I am proud in what you have accomplished on your own. What you are missing is the validation from another person in that you are a worthwhile member of society. Lonely maybe but never the less worthwhile. x

I'm sorry in what you went through as a child. I can see where your trust issues have stemmed from. But not everyone is a bad person or has bad intentions. Did you ever have any therapy for these issues? It is important no matter how painful to address the trauma you went through no matter how long ago. As you can see, it attaches on to who you now think you are and it's taking you down. It's overriding all the positive steps you have taken in your life. I hope you talk with us more on the forum. You have just found an incredible group of men and women who really care about helping each other. It's a safe place to come when life seems to be falling apart. You will find others with the same issues that you can relate to and feel close to after a while.

I welcome you to the forum. Know that you just took the first important step in going forward. You are never alone. We've got you xx

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Pat140609

Hi, so sorry your feeling like this, you have been through a awful lot, try and go out with work colleges once a month, even if you don't want too. Xx

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Simonn

Do you have any interests any groups you could join. You have come through so much so you are very strong

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Glowgirl83

Sorry to hear about your emotional pain, I am currently working on my degree program too. Are you at all spiritual? I find that helps me a lot. Feel free to reach out any time

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nimon

Hi I'm sorry this happened and you feel this way. I've battled loneliness and depression all my life but I still have family around me. You have to push yourself to do activities and keep active. You are young and even though today may suck tomorrow has the potential to be much better. Improve the odds of it getting better by being out there. Cooking class, gym classes, meet-ups....

You also should talk to a therapist who can be there to help you battle the challenges you describe.

Take care

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2getbetter

You have many friends on here that want to help. Reach out to any of us when you need to.

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Freefall88

Well you've been through a lot so I'm sorry you had to go through that but it's great that you have your degree and are working. It sounds like you have the education and career but what you feel your missing is well a partner more then anything. Even a close friend. In a partner well the ocean is vast so you'll find someone. As for a close friend some have already advised finding a group etc in your area for hobbies/common interest where you can go and build a friendship. As we are all friends here but you need a personal friendship with someone you can go out with and talk to in person as do we all.

You've done a lot you should be proud of now keep moving forward and before you know it you'll find what you feel is missing.

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akablonded

Because you're in pain, you don't fully realize your many accomplishments. You have an extremely good mind, or you surely wouldn't have a degree. You're responsible, with skills, or you wouldn't have gotten a job or stay employed. I have been where you are -- feeling so alone and alienated -- from my surroundings. When problems seem enormous, it's so very difficult to know how to tackle them. The answer for me was: just a little at a time. I would spend days in my house alone. I decided to go for a five-minute walk a few times a day, rather than stay in. I practiced saying "hi" to people I passed. Nothing more. It didn't solve anything monumental; it just gave me a "breather" from the anxiety and aloneness I felt. Another thing I've found is that if you want to start a conversation, which may be a hard thing for you to do -- talk to people who are walking a friendly-looking dog. Just a "What a great dog! What's his name?" will usually start a short, pleasant conversation. And, if it doesn't, try it again. One more thought/question: you've investigated counseling services in your city? If you haven't, do that. Take care.

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samjon1

sorry that you have gone through all this, try to forget the past which you cant change and since it can't influence your tomorrow. forgive those who hurt you and pray for them. Talk to a medical person about your fillings and how you spent a whole day in the house. I have gone through fears where i also didn't want to get out of the house and was filling hard to socialize. keep posting everything on this forum you will be helped

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Bri1020

It is clear that you’ve been through a lot. I also struggle with lonliness as I’ve lost most people who were close to me. It is hard but eventually you will persevere through it, and you will eventually find someone who makes you feel like you’re never alone. I believe in you.

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Get up and dance to this song! I LOVE YOU! HUGS!

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