I'm currently going through a divorce after 8 years, and I can't figure out how to fill that void inside me. Driving me insane. Any ideas?

[Randallc85]

I recently went into rehab for drugs before they ruined my marriage and my kiddos. When I got out my wife ran off with another man. I got custody of my kiddos and recently bought an amazing house, but yet I'm just miserable. It completely destroyed me, don't know why or when it went South. Thought I was doing rehab to better myself for my family, and yet she doesn't sell effected at all. She cheated on me several times and is very selfish. She wants nothing to do with me and all I want is another chance why is that?

[HearYou]

Is your question why do you want your wife back with all her faults, or is it why does your wife not want to be with you?

[Randallc85 in reply to HearYou]

Why do I want her back? Specially when I know everything she has done. It's almost like I can't function without her.

[HearYou in reply to Randallc85]

When did you start using, how long before you went to rehab, and did your wife "hold down the fort" at home while you were using? This info may have a key to why she locked you in and then left.

[Randallc85]

We were both using for several years both living at home. We talked about me going to rehab first then her. I've only been out for two months. As soon as I got out she left me and the kids.

[Walden80]

First, congratulations for getting sober. Second, much respect for going back to get your kids back and keep the family together. You are getting your priorities straight and this speaks to your character.

Your priority appears to be your kids and their well being. What is her priority? If she putting kids and family first? If not, I would have to say it’s better you move on and focus on your kids—especially if she still struggles with sobriety issues.

It sounds like she’s still struggling. Perhaps she needs time to figure herself out while you fix your family. Don’t delay your recovery to wait for her. You can’t force a person to recover. She needs to make this decision on her own. Right now your kids need a a strong stable dad.

You are a good man. You hit some serious road blocks but you are getting yourself back on track. Much respect.

[Randallc85 in reply to Walden80]

Thank you I am coming to recognize that. I just hurt so much from the loss of her