Who can I talk to that can help me through a tough time? I don't really have any close friends.

[StormyGriffon]

ok so I'm new to this whole thing and I'm really just looking for some advice. I'm in high school at the moment and my parents are currently working through a divorce. Last year I had a suicidal friend who I managed to save and another friend this year who also told me they were going to commit suicide. Both of these people are ok now though. I've really been struggling with school lately which is very unlike me. I normally finish all my homework weeks before the due date but now I am missing deadlines I'm also having trouble sleeping and I find myself crying every time something reminds me of these things or just when I start talking about it and I really hate crying in front of people. And I just had a really big argument with my only friends right when I need them the most. I'm having a really difficult time and I don't feel like there is anyone I can talk to about it.

[lovedogs51511]

Hi there! Just wanted to say welcome😀😀 Being on this site I've met some very dear friends. You aren't alone ok. You will find great advice here. I don't know how to help but ppl here will absolutely help you thru this tough time. First thing is be proud of yourself for saving your friends! That alone is a wonderful thing you've done. The divorce is a struggle but with time it will get easier. You seem to be a very intelligent student which is wonderful and awesome. Just talking about these stressors can really help you here on this site. I do understand your struggles with divorce and helping ppl. It takes a lot out of ppl. See I'm terrible at advice. Lol. If you can focus on what a great person you are and focus on your studies. Education is number one and I know your going thru tough times but with a little time it will lessen. Maybe try a therapist cause that would help tremendously being able to talk thru it. Hope you have a blessed day!!😀😀

[panamagd]

You're not alone. I often feel the same thing. Actually I feel it on a daily basis. I wish I had friends to speak with about the huge weight that depression has put on my shoulders but I can't or won't do it. I hope you're seeing a therapist and/or talking to a school counselor. Please also be careful with trying to talk to the wrong people. You don't want to get bad or malicious advice. We are here for you as evidenced by these replies. Reminder, you're not alone.

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Hey, I'm new too. Just wanted to say that I understand what having your parents divorce is like. Mine still didn't, but it was discussed many times. They can't stand each other so I hope they would just get it over with. I know it's a horrible thing to say and that I sound like a monster, but I can't remember a time when they could get along and it's always been a source of stress and anxiety for me.

What I mean is, a divorce is a crisis, many teens go through it and I'm sure you have the strength in you to do it too, but I assure you, it's better that living in constant war.

[Sprinkle1]

You are a strong young lady, hang on to your strength, that is hard to do under your circumstances. Wonderful you were able to help with the suicides, you deserve praise, some people would not care - yes they are out there. The divorce - Not your fault, let your parents sort thru it and do not let them pull you into it. If you can, love them both and get on with Your life. To my ears and what I read you are depressed and have every right to be so. Perhaps you can talk to your Dr. who may recommend a low dose of an antidepressant for a few weeks or months to help you get thru this. I would take them if I were in your shoes as you need to feel well and function properly. Give it a thought. I have been on antidepressants for 35 years, my brain does not function right without them. I know I tried weaning off of them and the depression came back. But for you it could be a one time need. Other people in the group may have some good ideas, so stay with us. We will share, give love and support. From Sprinkle1 with Love, Peace and Big Hugs.

[StormyGriffon]

I just want to thank everyone here for your support. reading these messages really is a huge help on it's own.

[KMorgana]

I far as school goes I feel the same as you! I am usually a diligent student who makes great greats, but lately, I have been feeling less and less motivated to do well. This then turns into constant stress which doesn't help with anything especially sleep. I haven't found much that helps me, but sometimes I can talk myself down with simple logic and thinking through the problem or writing it down. I don't have many friends that I feel comfortable talking to so I usually just write it out. It may not be the healthiest thing to do, but it does help me! Also, I've been reading this book called "You are not Your Brain" and it talks about inhibiting negative thoughts to the brain. It's really interesting!

[pchristian90]

Hello,

I will be there for you! You can talk to me whenever you feel like you need a friend. Throughout high school, I faced a lot of issues and I survived, I am now about to graduate college from Central Washington University with a degree in Psychology. I still struggle with my own mental illnesses so I know how important it is to have people listen to you and people there for you that will understand where you are coming from. I would love to connect with you.

All the best,

Phil

[Jacquelinechristina]

Hi lm a mother and remember the difficult time my teenage children had .l think you may be depressed can you ask your school if you can see a counselor?