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Can someone have a chat with me

Hi guys

Feeling very very low today

Just fell out with couple of my friends, but unfortunately I actually didn't do anything wrong, but no one is ready to listen to me

And my anxiety and depression is going mental

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If you didnt do anything wrong you should not be the one feeling bad.

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But these guys are meant to be my best friends, and I feel so heart broken that no one is talking to me

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I hope you're ok! If you didn't do anything wrong then you shouldn't feel bad. Do they know that you suffer with anxiety?

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They do know I suffer with anxiety they know I'm on medication as well

And honestly I can't take it anymore

I have no one for support

No one loves me

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I'm really sorry that you feel this way, it's upsetting to hear. Try to think positive things rather than feel like you're on your own, because you're not honestly. I'm here for a chat now! I suffer with anxiety too, and I have days when I feel like I can't relate to anyone, and nobody would even care to try!

Try not to focus on them and what they are doing, and think about what you are doing. You know that you haven't done anything wrong and you shouldn't be made to feel this way if you haven't. Try to pull yourself out of the negatives. Think about something that you enjoy doing at home, and try it. Please look after yourself, you're much more than your negative thoughts.

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You are very kind, thank you so very much

I'm just so done

I try my best to be the best I can be and not hurt anyone

But I feel like no one tried to understand me

I'm just so tired so so tired of feeling shit

I always try to be there for others,and others don't do that for me

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I feel the same, always trying my best and nothing seems to happen in return? No one seems to be there?

You know in yourself that you are doing your best, and with anxiety that is achievement in itself, sometimes it is so debilitating you don't even want to speak to people or deal with things. Don't isolate yourself over this, or let people make you think you've done wrong when you know you haven't.

Feeling tired and poorly come hand in hand. Sounds like you need to think about your number one priority- you! I had surgery a month ago, and up until then, I worried about everything and everyone and what people think, and now I know I could have died, I don't really care. People can think and act how they want to, it's a reflection on them, not me. I make the right choices and do my best. Let people get on with it how they do, be there for them and don't isolate yourself, but don't let them walk all over you.

Like I said before, look after yourself, switch off those negative thoughts because you haven't done anything wrong, relax, and do things you know you love. Recognising things about yourself such as knowing things you do and don't like is like a build up of identity, some people try to fit in so bad growing up, that they actually forget what they like themselves! I've done it!

Take care of you! X

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Oh I'm so sorry, I hope your operation is now all sorted and gets back to normal

I'm in a horrible place because these are my only friends and none of them are ready to listen to me

But if I loose them I'll be all alone in uni

I'm so ready to drop out

I'm not feeling okay, because I try not to ruin our friendship

But now that these guys aren't talking to me I honestly don't know what to do

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I didn’t realise that you’re at uni, what are you studying?

I know uni can sometimes seem lonely I’ve been there, if you’re in halls why don’t you go into the kitchen and get a hot drink, or get an early night? Uni living isn’t always easy but you can get through it!

And I’m ok, we were trying for a baby for years and we’re told nothing was wrong and finally got pregnant but turned out ectopic, so now I’ve lost my good tube! So IVF it is! Let’s hope it works!

Try to get some sleep and not worry about them. Are there any other people in your halls or on your course you can connect with? Or how about someone in student wellbeing to talk to? Take care! X

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I'll pray youll succeed in having a baby x

I study history

There's only 2 people that are talking to me, I feel very lonely because my family doesn't talk to me, my ex broke up with me 5 months ago, and now my friends

I dk what to do

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Sorry it has taken so long to reply. I have read the other's responses and think that they make good points. Maybe reach out to a student wellbeing officer? How are you feeling today?

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Feeling a tad bit better because one of my house mates gave me company and she is making me sit with her and watch a new to show x

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I'm glad you're feeling a little better and your house mate is there for company. Enjoy her company x

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Hiya, sorry to hear that about the issues you are facing. Lots of Universities have excellent support for students who are going through a difficult time. Are you aware of such support and how to access it? Sometimes, it is beneficial to talk to an independent third person. Take care,

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Hello thanks for replying

I'm already having counselling sessions but it's my last one this week

My uni is very slow I feel like with these kind of things

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Hiya, keep going. You are not alone. Be kind to yourself.

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How you feeling now? X

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Feeling much better because I'm distracting myself with a tv show

But every time the show stops I over think

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hod i have felt like you the answer is communicating - can you contact one of them and just ask what is wrong? it might not be what you are thinking and contact someone you know for support - my anxiety is always linked with relationships - i feel for you but you have to get into action and try to talk to one of them - take care keep in contact please xxx jan

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Hi Jan

I have tried to contact these friends of mine, but no one is ready to listen to me at all

They are not giving me a chance

Luckily one of my flatmates is on my side, and she's giving me company while I feel so low

She said to wait until they come and talk to me

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well look at it this way - you really are not alone - i have seen all the replies you have received so we are all with you and you sound like a loving caring person - not sure if this will help but i have had to lower my expectations of people because i give so much i ecpect the same back but ive had to stop that as it sets us up to always be a victim so that may help you - take care of yourself first and give yourself lots of love xxxx Jan

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hod i have felt like you the answer is communicating - can you contact one of them and just ask what is wrong? it might not be what you are thinking and contact someone you know for support - my anxiety is always linked with relationships - i feel for you but you have to get into action and try to talk to one of them - take care keep in contact please xxx jan

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Maybe it's your anxiety ? People don't want to around us they can't Handel our moods

The good thing about this site is that you can always find someone to chat with. That's why I joined. Everyone has a story to tell, where ALL here to LISTEN. Even if no one replies to me at least I get to express myself without judgement. Bless you and see this as maybe these aren't the kind of friends you need?

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Thank you so much for your help

I think this site is what keeps me going every time I feel low

The entire community is my friends

As per my uni friends they are my only friends here and I'm scared if I loose them I'll be by myself

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So am sorry about that, people can be so cruel, think about yourself, build yourself up, so that these people can’t affect you, tell me 3 great things about yourself. Go on .....

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Hi

I don't know if I'm good at all

Iv lost all hope

I'd like to say I try to be there for eveyone I know

Listen to them and solve their problems

But no one wants to do that for me

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You are good, I can tell, maybe it’s time to take that power back, x

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How do I do that

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By making all the feelings you have for others your own, make yourself the most important person in your life for once, self love, self nurture, simple things, tell yourself, gosh that was a fantastic cup,of coffee I just made, nurture yourself. X take care

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Thank you

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Please stay strong and pray for to have the courage to rise above the ones that di not want to share your life for you are more worthy than them the same happened to me in the 90s when I lost both my parents my so called friends could not understand how I was feeling and why I was so depressed I felt so alone my life had collapsed then i lost tge job i so much enjoyed i did not get tge support i was entitled to even when i asked for help the shutters were pulled down I made so many bad mistakes by not having the right support i have had to fight back and i have ran away many times looking for happiness it' like I am running around in circles it's never ending. I wonder how many of us take the time to reflect back on our life to find out what our underlying problem really is why do others prefer not to be around us well I seriously think that they do not know how to deal with us and I have been told this by 2 failed marriages was told I am not a happy person to be with I let things get on top of me when really I should just go with the flow if things do not work out then tough move on and find someone or something else that you could enjoy doing. Yes they are right but I find it hard to break away and to cut ties I wish we could be one big happy family. I over eat for comfort then I get overweight which I struggle to loose so doing it gradually as 5st is alot to get rid of.

But it is a new challenge I have set for myself.

Find a challenge to help you to become the person you want to be sending you big hugs you are never alone when you in this group.

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Hi Alfie

I'm so sorry to hear all this

Proud of you for taking care of yourself and not holding your self back from moving on

I will try to do the same

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The guys you say arevyour best friends....well best friends do not leave you or betray you.

There are many more people who could be your friends you just have not met them yet.

Everyday pray for forgiveness and pray for the things you would like in your life and wait for the miracle to happen I strongly feel that there is so much for you out in the world that you have not seen yet and that is where you will meet more friends and probably a new romance in years to come please do not rush into anything take your time enjoy your studies this is your time to reflect on what you want to do with your life follow your dream.

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Thank you Alfie19

I'm just in a lonely place right now and I feel stuck

I have no family, no friends, lost the love of my life, I' don't know what I'm doing

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Hi I have a friend that's battling your same situation. I'm so sorry for your pain. I know it's very real. Do you think this will blow over in time. I accept that you did nothing wrong and believe you. Just in case have you rethought the riff. Are you sure you're totally blameless. Can you guys communicate see if you can iron the problem. Lots of people in this world. Do your best to make new friends.

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Hi

I do have a tiny bit of blame, the whole argument is about a night out, I left the club early and texted one of them saying I'm going home, and I came home and passed out,

Next thing I know they called the police and sent a search team thinking I died somewhere,

The whole argument is so petty, they were drunk and overreacted

All I had done was come home and sleep

My flatmate thinks they are really childish and overreacted

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Give it a few days until everyone calms down, and then reach out to one of them. Try explaining how you feel and ask if you did something you’re unaware of. Maybe that will help to reconcile you and your friends.

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Thank you so much for responding

I will give it few days

I'm just tired

My plan is to be alone

And honestly not go out of my room

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If that’s what you need to do, then that’s best. I want you to have peace.

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Thank you

But I don't think I'll have peace, I'll just have guilt that I'm all alone In this world and I'll never have any friends or family or anyone

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it sounds like depression are you having any help with that?

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I'm in anti depressants i don't know if they are working

But I feel like there are days where im good and days where I'm not

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Maybe your life will get better. I’m here to listen and to pray for you. And so are lots of others here.

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What has helped me over the decades was asking Jesus into my heart and asking him to save me. At my worst he gave me a Bible verse that promised He would help me. The reason I’m saying this is because I always knew and know I’m not truly alone. It’s not the same as having a flesh and blood person, but at least you would have someone on your side and someone to talk to. Your problems won’t magically disappear, but there will be times when you’ll get a new perspective on things. Plus I have made some friends in church. I care about you and I hopethis helps a liittle. Don’t give up, please.

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Thabk you very much

This has given me hope x

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I am much older than you, but I was lonely at my college too. I had no friends. Maybe you could try to go to a club meeting you are interested in or a church if you have a religious faith, to try to make new friends. I have terrible anxiety too. If you want you can send me a message so I can know more details of what is going on.

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Hi cb

Unfortunately I have no interest in anyone or activities

And for real have no interest

I'm ashamed I have no talents so can't really join anything

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Hey

How are you feeling?

Any better?

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You have a talent, you just haven’t found it yet

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Don’t be ashamed, your being open and vocal

It takes guts too

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Hi fishmonster

I know what you're trying to say

But I'm just so done with everything

I have no more energy

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Depression will take away your energy it takes everything out of you

But don’t don’t ever stop pushing forward don’t give up

It’s only a phase you will over come this

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I'm trying

But the fact that people I love are not sticking on my side and I'm all alone

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Marato, I know the feeling. You feel stuck and can’t even explain to your friends. Give them some time, they may come around. I get depressed when I feel like I’ve been misunderstood by friends and family. Sometimes you just have to be patient. Do you have a therapist? That would help. Write back and let us know.LD

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Hi ddorne

I'm happy that you know where I'm coming from

I do have a councellor but it's my last week with her

So after this week I don't know what to do

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You got to find someone another therapist to work with

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I think I'll call up the well being in my uni tomo and also go doctors to talk about anti depressants

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Unless you go to sleep, Please keep talking to us. We care about you. You might be having negative thinking. I have it too. A therapist could help when you get one again. Tons of hugs!

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Thank you so much cb, I'll go to doctors tomo and ask uni if I can get more time with therapist

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I know how you feel try and relax and do something to keep busy

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Thank you jmerrick

I keep watching a tv show

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Plenty of friends here to help you

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