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Can I have another baby?

Things have been going good between my husband and I. And it just has me thinking of baby number two. My son is only one and while I would love for him to have a sibling close in age, I don't think my mental health can handle it nor could we afford it financially . I have half of me really wanting another baby and for my son to have a sibling and the "smart" part of me saying my mental health wouldn't be able to handle it and it isn't fair for me to chance it. And I would have to definitely get a part time job. I don't want to have any regrets . And when I think about not having another baby I get depressed. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?

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I say give it some time. I have three grown kids. Each three years apart. I don’t know how old you are but waiting a year or two seems logical to me since you are worried about your anxiety and financial situation. Your Son will still be close enough in age to enjoy his little brother or sister.

Then again “who knows” having another baby might bring you so much joy that it cures your anxiety. The greatest and happiest time of my life was when my children were born. We didn’t have much money, but we always got by.

Best wishes for you whatever you decide!

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Yes! I wanted another baby so bad. My husband didn’t but would do what it would take so I tried so hard. For me God knew Best. My husband drinks too much. I still think I would have been a good mom to another child too. I still regret it so bad! My physical body couldn’t do it. After my son I waited and then it was too late. I still wonder if my husbands drinking played a part. It’s my biggest regret. I did get my step son that I call my bogo son. (Buy one get one free) My son feels alone. If I die he has no siblings. It sucks. I can say when a child says they need you a moms instinct kicks in. At least for most mothers. Even tired, anxious etc. when my son needed me I was a lion. Do you care for the son you have? Do you feed him, bathe him, care for him? If so you will for the other one. Financially it will be more buying formula but you can get help if needed. Working part time really won’t pay a sitter so you won’t afford it better. As far as food etc it’s not much more as they walk and eat regular. It’s a commitment. How does your husband feel about it? You need to make sure you will be able to care for the child though. I wasn’t prepared when I had my son. It was not planned but he was the greatest blessing in my life and I just did what I had to do. No one can tell you what’s best for your life. Maybe you can get that job now but any money you make put in savings. If you can have that extra money and not need it then you could use that for your new child. Plus if you could save up you could have some for the time you would be out of work. Make a list of pros and cons and discuss this with your spouse. Only you can truly decide with your spouse what is best.

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