Just trying to survive...

[Mercedes11]

I’m 41. I have 5 children. Two are adults. I work FT. Life’s been hard. Life is good now. Anxiety has always been with me. Now depression is a shadow following me and I can’t get it to go away. I’ve started menopause a few months ago. Started counseling. Good job, happy kids, in love. Sad. Too sad. I’ve gotta hide it from my family because I don’t want them worried about me ( older kids and my man) Just sharing to get it out and see what others are doing.

[Simonn]

Shame you feel the need to hide it talking to the ones you love the most can certainly help but i do understand why you do. Hope you get some help here.

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Talk to your husband..open up to each other..He may be feeling the same you don't know..

[Starry]

Hugs. I'm 43. No kids but a fur baby. Life not so good due to hormone related health issues and surgery this year and anxiety and depression both a big challenge.

I wonder if it's with talking to your GP about the manopause and your feelings as hormone changes can trigger depression and there may be things you can do eg hrt, taking magnesium or other supplements.

[Mercedes11]

Thank u for all these great replies. I saw dr today. Got a rx even tho I don’t want to. Might try it. Trazadone for sleep issues. I take nothing else. She’s going to look into a lower dose hrt. And maybe have me half it. I just can’t get over wondering why I feel so alone when I’m reaching out and know I have the support w my man at home also. I feel like a burden if I tell him I’m still so down. I’m going to keep on and try reading other experiences on here.

[Windy101]

Menopause. I was angry about everything during that time and so depressed. Your hormones are having a circus. I know they are vitamins, herbs, and even diets that are supposed to help.

One summer I came home from college and was sitting around talking with my mom and dad. Suddenly my mom said, "Oh, thanks a lot!" and ran out of the room crying. I looked at my dad like, what???? He said, "I think your mother is going through some changes." She was really down that summer, but was back to her old self the next one.

Feeling alone is a symptom of depression, which is common with menopause. You can get through this. You have friends here who care, so while you feel alone, you are far from it!

[Sprinkle1]

Hi I went thru the menopause with ups and downs, depression was a big down, I also took hormones that were made for my body - do Not take Premerine and Provera, they are bad and can cause depression. (Premerine is made from pregnant mares urine - it is a cruel thing to do, and why would we put animal fluid in our body?) Sounds like you have a good marriage, so I would suggest you sit down in a quiet moment and tell your husband what your body is doing to you. I went to a menopause workshop, and was in a support group. See if there is any paperwork you can let your husband read. Marriage is a partnership so do not deprive yourself, or go and talk to a therapist who specializes in menopause - it lasts a number of years, there will be the hot sweats, the hot flashes, etc., etc. Be good to yourself. I send you Love, strength and big Hugs. Sprinkle 1