You know what - Don’t give other people permission to ruin your day-
I’m so sick of her ‘know it all’ ‘better than you’ attitude ... like, so much of the time. And giving me her trash when she’s finished using it up. It’s her problem that she doesn’t choose to respect me. I’ve only treated her well. I finally see her in a different way now because I’ve reached my limit. Im done. I’ll ignore it all the best I can and from now on and try to put her in the past because I deserve to be treated well.
Can anyone relate? It’s sad to have to let go but it’s for the best sometimes with certain people, you know?
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I'm so sorry to hear about your sister and how disrespectful she could be towards you. I can relate a lot, and it's even worse when you have a smaller family and love to stay close with them. My sister used to make me cry in public and would say horrifying mean cruel things to me, things I wouldn't say to my worse enemy, and I just remind myself that she is human. That doesn't give them the right to hurt us, however, the more we understand that they usually project how they feel on us, the easier it is to let it go.. let the hurt go.. the pain is always worse with the ones closest with us, I know it's hard..
My sibling and I have a good relationship, BUT we've spent our whole lives watching our mother treat our aunt (mom's sister) the same way your sister treats you and it makes us sick.
Our aunt is a great lady. She's been through hell and back and yet still does everything she can to put others before herself. But my mother constantly treated my aunt like garbage and humiliated her both privately and publicly. Eventually, my aunt did have to part ways with my mom. It was a tough but necessary decision.
Thankfully, people have eyes and ears and (sometimes) functioning brains, so they see my mother's actions and my aunt's distress. We rally around my aunt and never miss an opportunity to tell her that she is loved and supported by us, regardless of what her sister says and does.
I hope that this may offer you some consolation: Even if your sister pushes you to the brink, there are other, more important people, who love you. They see you for the kind soul you are and treasure you. And deep, deep down, I think your sister knows this too- You are wonderful, beautiful and cared for. And she can't ever take that away from you ❤️
I hear ya! Hope as you both get older you will be able to work things out easier. My sis has this smug attitude about her like all the time then sometimes she goes too far... Im done... and I can’t even voice this to her because she’d just blame me.
I can relate! Both of my sisters have been critical of me, through the years.....especially my oldest sister.....even though I didn’t grow up with them, as they are my half sisters and we don’t even know each other very well. They show no remorse for the way they have treated me and think they are justified in the things they have said and done to me. It’s a very sad situation and I finally made the decision to walk away from them, because it became too hurtful of a situation to deal with. And no one deserves to go through that! So I can relate and also sympathize with what you’re going through. I believe you are doing the right thing. Peace and love to you, my friend! ❤️❤️❤️
Yeah ..your sibling..your kids cousins..family...but yeah, it's about what you are going to do ...i find that it's my anger getting to me when im faced these situations..so Im working to control my anger..what do you feel?
I have felt less worth in the past when she puts me down...I I stuff it down (not good) I get down on myself when people treat me poorly I think I’ll just stay more to myself around her and those like her. A couple of times I gave it to her; told her how she was wrong...I won’t try so hard anymore to gain worth in her eyes. But I don’t think I’ll be angry toward her either if I can help it , rather ignore her faults. She’s like my dad (they are always right) and my dad and I don’t get along either. Would you and your sister yell at each other? What happened to make it difficult between you? Would she put you down? Did you feel bad about yourself or know it’s her fault? It’s sad. You’re such a beautiful person. I’m blessed that you are my brother now ❤️ Sorry for all the questions; you don’t need to answer if you don’t want.
I can relate. My sister is a toxic, sarcastic, cruel person who will keep at me until she has gotten the satisfaction of upsetting me. Now that my children are grown I have cut off all contact with her. My children can chose what kind of relationship they want to have with her. I finally unfriended and blocked her and her husband on Facebook. I didn't want things to go so far but she has tormented me her entire life. I've had enough so in my mind I divorced my sister. Hard to do but no regrets. My life is much more peaceful without her in it.
It was really hard to do but nothing else worked. If your kids are close try to keep your distance as much as possible. Whenever possible have the kids together at your house. That gave me more confidence. When they get older they will see your sister for who she is and make their own decisions. That's when I finally started slowly stepping away from my sister completely.
Actually we are not even having them over for my son’s b day because one of the cousins is being hurtful towards my son. I have a feeling when I tell her why she will flip! Oh well.
I can definitely relate Starrlight. I have just one Sister and because I suffer anxiety, she has seen me as a weak and a lesser person. Although, I helped her, Moneywise, when she was deep in debt, when I was poor and bringing up children alone, all she did was give me her old, unwanted Clothing. For many years she rang only when she needed me to help with something. I began to see the Selfish, Unkind, Loud and Draining, person she really is. I promised myself that once our Mum had passed away, I would have nothing more to do with my sister. She cleared Mums house and took everything she wanted, without asking me. She then rented the house out, also, without my knowledge. The last time I spoke to her was years ago at our Mums Funeral. I want no further contact. Some people are just exhausting and simply not worth the effort.
Thankyou, it's a while ago now and mostly I don't even think about it. 👍😊
I have 2 younger sisters, one that I get along with pretty well and one that I just don't. With the one that I don't, she does manipulative sneaky things that I see through when others don't or just choose not to see or believe it or confront her about it. And she does have an attitude like she's better and smarter than me and my other sister because she has a college degree and she was an all A student and makes better money. She doesn't really know what it's like to struggle and make ends meet on very little money, but she thinks she knows so much because she works as a financial analyst. She has not been in my shoes and moreover she doesn't even try to understand what it's like to be in my shoes. She just totally distances herself, not just from me but from everyone in my family. Very much a lack of empathy and caring. I'm tired of trying to reach out to her or ask how she's doing just to get nothing back or a stupid text that she has to go do something and can't talk. And I'm really done with trying to buy her anything for a gift because she always wants to take things back or exchange them and can't just accept things graciously. And yes, I would say she's a snob. I wish things were different but this is how she chooses to be, I figure I should just stop trying to be nice and don't bother with her either. I'm sorry if you have a sister with an attitude like this too. Don't keep reaching out if you're getting nothing back.
I totally understand this. My sister thinks she is better than me and because she older, she makes all the decisions about things we do. She knows I have anxiety and so when .y anxiety gets bad she sometimes even accuses me of faking it. So I guess sister's are just the worst
I swear what is it with our sisters? I’m sorry you go through it with yours. Yup mine thinks she knows better than me although she is 3 years younger than me. I’m at the point where I’m beginning not to even care anymore, like there’s nothing I can do you know? Wonder why your sis would think you’d want to fake a thing like that ugh
I don't know. I really don't know why she'd think I that. I honestly don't care what she thinks I mean she's old enough to know and realise that other people matter so she can do what she likes
I know that I have issues with my husband and I remain here, but any other friend or family member that has repeatedly been unkind- I shut out completely. They should go find someone else to be mean to
I am too working on it and it’s getting only better with my husband and also my best friend and I are on great terms but my sister ugh I mean she could be much worse but it’s like okay she thinks she and her kids can do no wrong and if they hurt someone well that’s their own fault somehow - that’s how it is in my eyes. Iammesues I think it’s a strong and bece move you make.. I’m still in the process of letting go by seeing her less and not letting her get to me.
Make sure you are doing enough so she notices a change. Not that your goal is limited to her noticing, but it’s the first step for her to decide if she will change her ways. When she notices she will attack you with meanness- that’s what mean people do when they start to see the gig is up- they go beserk. So be prepared with strength in knowing she’s only freaking out due to her loss of the opportunity of being mean to you, not because she upset you. Make sense? She’ll be upset that you’ve had enough and her fun is over... not because she hurt you
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I am so tired of people trying to relate to my social anxiety!!!!!!!!
Sharing my Story to get it off my chest tonight 
In order for me to be happy again, I need to let me past go.
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