Help for a friend

[Hopingtogetbetter]

So I have a friend who’s been through a lot and he keeps saying he wants to die young and doesn’t want help because he wants to “be sad so he can die” how do I talk to him without sounding rude or becoming angry at his stubbornness?

[dead_inside]

if you think he is really a danger to himself I would call the authorities. in the mean time I think you should just be there for him as much as possible and support him through everything. maybe try to understand why he's feeling the way that he is.

[Hopingtogetbetter in reply to dead_inside]

Well that’s the thing he really isn’t a danger to himself and the reasons as to why he says he wants to die young is cause he says he doesn’t want to deal with responsibilities of being an adult and doesn’t want kids

[dead_inside in reply to Hopingtogetbetter]

that sounds like an immaturity issue. he would have to work on that within himself and see the beauties that adulthood has to offer

[Hopingtogetbetter in reply to dead_inside]

but like what should I say when he brings this up?

[dead_inside in reply to Hopingtogetbetter]

If you came to me and said you wanted to die i'd probably yell "No you wanna live!" and then take you on an adventure. lmao

[Hopingtogetbetter in reply to dead_inside]

Lol that’s a good idea but he moved upstate for college sooooo it’s kinda hard going on adventures but thank you though 😊👍🏻

[dead_inside in reply to Hopingtogetbetter]

have a movie date with him. both of you make popcorn get some chocolate and drinks then log onto this website called rabb.it and watch a movie together. laugh for awhile so he can see the beauty of life

[HearYou]

How old is your friend? That is important on how to approach this issue.

[Hopingtogetbetter in reply to HearYou]

He’s 20

[HearYou in reply to Hopingtogetbetter]

How long has he been talking like this?

[Hopingtogetbetter in reply to HearYou]

For a couple of months

[HearYou in reply to Hopingtogetbetter]

So since he left for college. Ok, if he is bringing this up,it does sound like an immaturity issue and most universities have student counseling. I really don't think many people that young have died from not wanting to grow up, but he sure is getting a lot of attention from you when he talks about it. If he has access to drugs or other ways to harm himself, and you think that's a possibility, you may want to call the appropriate department at the university. It is not your job to be his keeper and your mental health is important. Next time he brings it up, ignore it or maybe shut him down with a reply you've heard all that already and don't want to hear again. Or tell him he's really hurting you by saying this and please just stop. If he is a good friend, hopefully he'll listen to you. I suspect you're a woman and he knows you don't want to say anything that would hurt his feelings or be rude. Take care of yourself...be rude.

[Hopingtogetbetter in reply to HearYou]

Ahhhh thank you so much! This is really helpful!