Break up

[Honsanx]

First time here needing some help/advice.

My ex ended things 4 weeks ago, we had been together for a year. He's always been so supportive of my depression until I started taking medication. When I went to visit him, he became unhappy on how I was acting on sertraline. My mood was very up and down and argued over silly things.

When I got back home from visiting my medication ran out, I was starting to feel better, I could think straight but unfortunately it was too late, he ended things.

He hasn't given me a chance to explain myself and has blocked my number and on all social media.

I am now feeling much worse than I started, my appetite has gone. I am having trouble sleeping, waking up throughout the night and thinking about him. Suicidal/self harm thoughts when I think that he isn't going to talk to me again.

Our mutual friends are saying that I should just give him time but I can't get the thoughts out of my head that he probably isn't going to talk to me again.

[jramire5]

Hi there,

I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through. What I think you need to do is use this moment as an opportunity to focus on yourself. If you were having issues with your depression up to the point where you were taking medication for it, I think you need to focus on self-care and get to a place where you can be at peace with yourself. Take it from someone who has been dealing with ongoing depression for over 15 years, if you are not at a point where you can control it to the best of your abilities and it’s affecting your relationships, you need to make yourself priority and get yourself on the right track. I know it’s hard to have a relationship end, you obviously loved him very much. Get to a point where you can manage your depression; if you’re not seeing a therapist, go get one or start seeing them a lot more often. Try your best to pick yourself up and find that peace that you deserve. If you and him are meant to be, it will be, trust me. Focus on yourself, that is all you need to do right now and everything will fall into place. You deserve to be happy and to be as healthy as you can possibly can be, do yourself the favor to get to that point. If you would like to continue talking about this or need someone to vent to, I’m here.

[Honsanx in reply to jramire5]

Hi, thanks for your reply. I'm really trying to focus on myself, it's just really hard. Whenever I pick myself up, I start thinking that he's never going to talk to me again and I'm back to square one.

I've been referred to therapy by my GP, I'm hoping things will start to look up soon.

[jramire5 in reply to Honsanx]

Things will definitely start to look up if you truly make the effort. You are worthy to be happy and healthy and when you are happy and healthy, you will attract happy and healthy situations. And I’m with kenster1 with filling up the void by doing other things during this period. What are your hobbies? When I was going through a rough breakup last year, I painted A LOT and that helped bring out all of that energy and it made me feel good about myself. You need to do things that will make you feel good about yourself.

[kenster1]

sorry your going through a bad time.breaking up is always hard and someone always suffers.do try to focus on your own life for now as that's what matters most.if he gets back in touch then great try work things out but if not then try and move on for your own good.fill up the void by doing other things in the short term and ride it out.dont put your life on pause for to long as it will make you more down.good luck though.