Here we go again

[Sleann85]

This morning was happy and great then my boyfriend says one thing I take wrong and it's just hell. It's my mind just takes it to a whole new level and then after it's had its show and done the damage is done and I'm constantly apologizing...

[AvaP]

I have to say, this happens to me aallll the time. i over analyze and dramatize the situation. To me, my feelings and thoughts are justified and hes so understanding but i feel guilty that i lashed out like i did. ive even done it to friends

[Jomama91]

I find myself in the exact same situation sometimes in my relationship. I have no idea how to articulate this to my boyfriend without the fear of a cynical response back and I feel so alone whenever this issue is at hand. Other than that my relationship is pretty much perfect. But it seems this one issue keeps us on this stagnant phase. What I try to do whenever I am in that situation I try to stop apologizing as much and I thank him instead for being patient. My boyfriend understwnds through the abuse of my childhood I would apologize constantly cause I was accustomed to doing it. Instead I try really hard (and believe me it is VERY hard) to one stop apologizing and start thanking him. It's a completely unexpected move on your part and will from personal experience allow something greater than another argument to occur.

Hope this helps you. Please let me know if you find out any solutions