Cutting

[MNS_04]

I haven't posted in a while, but I haven't felt like doing much and logging on here is one those things that I haven't felt like doing. I starting cutting back and April and I need advice on how to stop. Every time something bad happens, my first thought is to cut. I need to stop because since it's warm here, I want to wear shorts but sometimes you can see the scars. I haven't cut a lot, but I just want the thoughts to go away. I've been feeling really alone lately and I use it as a way of punishment of myself for my problems. My mom can never find out. She didn't react very caring when I told her about the depression either. Its like she's embarrassed to have a messed up daughter. Lots of bad things are happening. My best friends are moving far away in a few days (they're twins) and I don't know what I will do without them. My therapist is also moving, so I've been feeling pretty crappy lately and cutting is what always comes to mind and I need it to stop. Any advice for any of these things would be amazing. Thanks

[kelli333]

I cut too. It's pretty superficial but still you can see them and its embarrassing. But it's the only thing I can do to get some relief after everything I tried to feel better failed. You are not alone and it does not reflect on your character. If you ever want to talk send me a message. I think we have some things in common.

[Lynl in reply to kelli333]

Dear Kelli333,

I hope you know what I just wrote to mns_04 is for you too. You need to know how worth it you are , and please get professional help and also stay on this site. When we are not happy with the way things go , we have to change them, by finding safe friends, doing safe fun things, and put your life on a good path to success, with that , and God , you can do anything

[Lynl]

Dear mns_04,

I'm a mom of a 27 year old son and a 15 year old daughter , the most important thing is communication about anything, you should not be afraid to tell your parents anything, you are not an embarrassment to them , they probably don't know how to respond . But please, stop punishing your body , you sound very sad and it sucks when best friends move away and it is no fun to be lonely.

My daughter has a friend who used to cut, and another who was very shy and they both went for help and doing so much better . Please don't harm yourself, get professional help and stay on this site with us, we don't judge , and we're here to listen . Your life is important and good things will happen. It has to start from within you, you have to realize your worth so much . God knew you before you were born , and you are an amazing person, you just need to believe it. Feel free to talk anytime .

[carson8792]

I want you to know cutting does not have to be forever. I say this because I have a soon to be 30 year old daughter that cut when she was in her teens and early 20's. In addition to short-term counseling, we found keeping her busy and involved help her focus and deal with life's challenges. Her involvement, engagement and participation made her stronger emotionally and personally. She realized therapists like friends come and go, but there are always others to replace them. You have to know and accept there is a healthy side. Today she is a successful business woman, working for a well known company, making 6 figures without a college education. I might also add that during this time she was an atheist. She is now a Christian and puts her trust in our Heavenly Father. Believe you can stop. Find things you are interested in and pursue them. Will it be easy? Sometimes, but know that you can. Once you retrain your thinking you can achieve!!! You've got this!!!