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Is there hope?

HealthLocked
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More times than often, lately I just don’t want to be here. Not at work, or school, or home. It’s like what’s the point you know. It’s like EVERYONE has a life, like things going on (kids, getting married, having sex, partying, etc). In other words everyone seems successful but me. It’s not that I don’t want it I do, and it’s not like I can’t I can but it’s hard. Battling with depression and constantly feeling anxious. It makes it so hard to focus and concentrate. Like so much is going on in my head all at once and I can’t stop it. I cant stop the talking, the noises, the guilt. I can’t stop me heart from feeling limp and empty. Everything seems hopeless.

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Msheatherlady

I totally understand where you’re coming from. I constantly feel like everyone around me is successful and living great lives and it makes me feel like a loser. It’s so hard to shake the feelings sometimes, especially when I have my own family putting me down at times, but it helps to tell myself to take everything Day by Day. Take deep breathes and breathe. It will get better, and I know it’s not easy as I still struggle but remember to praise yourself for the little things you do too!

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HealthLocked

How do you take it day by day because there’s times where, like you said I take deep breathes and breathe and I just break into tears, and sometimes it’s unexpected and embarrassing when I’m in public, because I’m the type of person who likes to keep it all in and to myself because I KNOW people don’t care like they say they do

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Msheatherlady

Honestly sometimes it’s not day to day, sometimes it’s moment to moment it just depends on how high my stress and anxiety levels are. I’m the same way, I don’t like to show my feelings to people so I hide it. Sometimes what I’ll do is if I’m out somewhere or at work and I feel myself getting upset I’ll excuse myself and go to the bathroom and try to calm down there or if not cry a little and let it out. Sometimes it’s better to not hold it in. There are people that do care, I care, and I’ve actually found that to the few people I opened up to they were more supportive then I thought they would be.

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HealthLocked

So is there ever a time when people just shut you out and refuse how you feel?

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Msheatherlady

Kind of. I’ve had people tell me to just get over it so there’s that. I also tend to shut people out though sometimes as well.

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HealthLocked

Well that’s rude.

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Msheatherlady

I don’t shut people out to be spiteful. It’s when I’m having an anxiety attack I usually just need a little time to even be okay to talk.

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HealthLocked

Well that’s understandable

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Msheatherlady

Yeah. I eventually tell someone how I’m feeling, just takes time depending on how bad my anxiety is at the time.

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HealthLocked

Okay

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HealthLocked

And I didnt mean that you were rude, I meant what they would say to you. That's not how you talk to people that's dealing with something stressful

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Abby14
Abby14
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Yes it is very rude! That"s why very few people know I have Anxiety & depression! Mrsheatherlady you are dealing with it great! you don"t want people in your life who don"t even try to understand! you know everyone on here does :) It is not being spiteful, it"s self persvation! nothing wrong with that! you have nothing to be ashamed of :) I only choose people I am very close to,to share my Depression with :)

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lilsaddude

This post resonates with me. Thank you.

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HealthLocked

In many ways that one? And you're welcome, glad to help.

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lilsaddude

The point you made about school and how those around you seem to be living and enjoying life while some battle conditions that make just being comfortable in your own skin damn near impossible. I’ve dropped so many classes of out fear of having to speak in front of a few students. It’s embarrassing and humiliating to admit.

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HealthLocked

Yes it could be embarrassing and humiliating to admit, but that fact that you just did, you never know who's reading it and feels exactly the same way or handled the situation exactly how you did. But no one should feel that way but some do and all we can do is help each other.

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Hidden
Hidden

Hi it's easy to look at other people and assume that their life is successful and that they are having a great time. The reality is though that you don't know that they are as you can't see inside their lives. People probably look at you and would be amazed you feel like this.

Comparing yourself to others is a mugs game and always leads to disatisfaction with your own life. x

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Hidden
Hidden

Hey. I am just seeing your post. Might I say that you’re not alone. We are actually floating along the same current . As hard as it may seem. You must continue to float. If you don’t you will drown which neither you nor I want. So let’s regroup. First, never compare yourself to another person. Everybody is dealt their own hand. What may seem peachy for one person might not be peachy for the next. We are given no more than we can handle.

I often use to say to myself that I wish I was in my sisters shoes. Why ? Because she’s literally a mini Beyonce, fit, gorgeous, popular, travels a lot to places like Dubai, drives range rovers etc. but like most people we tend to see more good than bad. But when I see the hardships she went thru I know I couldn’t endure them. I would be devastated to the point of no return. I say all this to say. Looks are deceiving. Stop worrying about other peoples life and focus on your life. Because I believe that your life is and WILL be just as good. Life can only be what you make it. So let’s start with positive thoughts as hard as that may be at our lowest points. But try. You already gave me the impression that you have what it takes! You just need positivity and motivation. I’m here to supply it as much as I can. One more thing. When I’m finding it hard to concentrate due to my anxiety and depression....when the noise, guilt, frustration, sadness, hopelessness, emptiness and etc are trying to perpetrate nonexistent lethal weapons against me ....I STOP ...& I STOP EVERYTHING & I take deep breathes in and out to gather myself then I take a step back and reevaluate myself and the situation at hand. I remind myself that I am human and I can only do what I can for that day. There’s always a tomorrow. What’s great about tomorrow is that you can start all over again and work towards your goal. Which is to have a successful life where you control your anxiety and depression. Not the other way around. 😇 To answer your question....YES, there IS HOPE !!!!

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HealthLocked
HealthLocked
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Thank you I needed that

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Hidden
Hidden
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No problem :)

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ellinaki
ellinaki
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Nicely put..si very true..

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Fearofit

I feel hopeless at times especially when I have a anxiety attack and can't get it under control. I have a house full but I always feel alone.

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