We moved to another country 6 months ago and my husband has a history of anxiety and depression. The job change has been really hard on him and this just did not go as planned at all. He didn't see anything in a positive light. Everything was awful. We have 3 kids and they have been asking why he sleeps so much, etc. I am constantly doing "damage control" because he is short with the kids. We are heading back home soon because it has become more negative to be here than positive. He's on medication, he's gone to therapy multiple times and we've been to marriage counseling in the past. We've been together for over 15 years and married for 8 of them.
I'm feeling very resentful and feel like he's ruined this experience for us even though I know he didn't try to. I feel tired to be the one to manage everything and everyone and I'm just not sure I want to continue this cycle forever. Everything is always about him and what he needs and the reassurance he constantly needs about how I feel about him and our relationship. But honestly, my kids need me too. I don't know if me being upset is even fair.