My girlfriens cries from time to time and either will not let me in or its really for no reason. I dont know how to help or how to get her to possibly open up to me. In these spells she tells me shes fine and just wants to be alone... but its so hard to let her be when shes clearly acting like something is on her mind and crying. Its so hard for me to just leave her in the other room and go pretend im not stressing about her well being. She just wants me to go about whatever i was doing prior.. almost likr she doesn't want to bother me with whatever is bugging her...
Sometimes i try to leave her alone but when she doesnt come back in the bedroom or living room. I just... almost pester her in my opinion. I try to say things to figure out why shes feeling like this.
Do you feel stuck in life?
Do you feel overwhelmed or stressed?
Am i the reason?
I beg her to just let out whatever is on her mind and we can talk about it with no judgement. But she always says she doesnt know or no reason.
I just feel like im doing more harm than good sometimes. I just need someone to talk to that can help point me in a direction to help her or tell me i should give her space while shes in these states?
She always apologizes the next day for her "craziness" but i want to work towards her not feeling this way. She wont go with me to talk to someone or see the dog or even call one of her girl friends.
Im just so lost and i love her and want to help in any way. I mean i really want to know why or be let into her mind but if it really is just over nothing, i want to be able to help her shake it off.
I feel like sex isnt an option at these points. How do you try to cheer her up with some fun when she in distress and crying? So im looking for more vocal advice or pointers in helping reduce the length of these moments or just... i just want to help her and i dont know what to do anymore...