Depressed and husband does not understand

[penguin-chick]

My husband used to be great and would listen to me about what was going on. That was until 3 years ago when he started working at a different shop. One where the wives did everything and the husbands sat on their asses when they did not have to work. I have to do everything. Yes I am a stay at home mom but I am severely depressed and he does not see it. I have not been truly happy in who knows how long. I love my girls and they make me happy but not the happy inused to be. Not the happy i was in the beginning of of relationship over 7 years ago. I think that if we did not have kids that we would not still be together. I do not remember the last time we kissed it has been that long. I honestly think that I love him but I am not in love with him. He does not get that his words hurt me. And bring me more and more down. The more down I feel the less I want to do. But I am scared to ask for a divorce. I have not worked since before Inhad our second daughter 4 years ago. I just don't think I can do it. If you have read all of this thank you. I have never told anyone any of this. I am not expecting any comments or anything I just needed to get it out there

[Itsjustmeagain]

Hi,

I am sorry you are feeling so badly and that hubby don't understand.it stinks the way work can influence a person. And even though he works you still need to feel like a real apreatiated human. I wish you all the best and hope you can find a way to work things out.

[Kobojunkie]

Let's pull back here a bit. You said you are depressed, are you seeing a doctor about it? Are you taking the right dosage of medication or are you still working on titrating your dose? If you don't have a doctor, what have you been waiting for?

I get you want your hubby to understand you and listen to you but you also have to make sure you do your part in this by working on getting treatment and becoming the best person you can be. I would say you wait on making decisions about divorce or no divorce until you are sure you are getting the right treatment for your depression please. One thing about a depressed mind is that it is a mind susceptible to delusions too. I made a lot of decisions while depressed that I wish I never did.

[penguin-chick in reply to Kobojunkie]

I am seeing someone. I am on a low dose of meds but with other issues that I have we have to be careful what they put me on. I have a low bp that needs to be considered before any changes can be made. I will be talking about an increase at my next visit. I have also started talking to someone about my issues but we have only had one appointment so far.