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wendywoo66LONG TERM WINNER
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I am so ashamed. I went over two weeks then my daughters friend came to stay at the house and she had cigarettes. Two yesterday and one and a half today. She has gone now and we have both vowed not to go back to smoking. Please help

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CimmyLONG TERM WINNER

Hi Wendy, don't look at it as a failure......look at it as a set back👍. This is the hardest journey of your life and all I can say is, your on the right site...... Nobody judges you here, they listerning and always come up with supportive and practical help, you will get there, a set back is a set back......moving on is the answer. We are all in the same boat, come on here and rant and rave, there is always someone to listern. We are all in it together😊😊😊😊🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

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BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER

Please don't be ashamed Wendy coz we're only human and we make mistakes. I admire you for jumping straight back on your quits👍🏼 keep one another going and let what has happened stay in the past, look to a healthier and brighter future. So chin up and keep moving forwards, you can both do this😊

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Andrew-S

Don't feel bad. It is understandable. Just start again it's only a little slip up not like uv smoked 20 for days in a row.

Maybe next time the friend comes ask them to keep the cigarettes away from you or say in advance they mustn't give you one or say when they going for one.

Just get back to it it's not that bad 👀

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LilyMay73LONG TERM WINNER

Hi Wendy, the two weeks was a practice run for this time when you're going to smash it 😁 you know your triggers so don't be afraid to ask people not to bring tobacco into your home or smoke around you...You will be benefiting them as well as yourself. You're back on it so keep smiling and feeling good about yourself and remember NOPE, the best saying to keep you going. Good luck x

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dunn15 Month Winner

Most all of us have had some bumps in the road before we got to wherever we are at today! Give it another try and don't be too hard on yourself .. BUT .. be sure to learn from this experience!

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glolinLONG TERM WINNER

hi wendy,

Please dont feel bad - like others have said, many of us have several practice runs before the real deal :) :)

NOPE NOPE NOPE - Not One Puff Ever - keep this close and tell yourself this all the time as it help you through though times..keeps your reasons for quitting close too and use them as your constant reminder :) :)

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wendywoo66LONG TERM WINNER

Thanks everyone. I will stick with it :-)

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droopyJ

Flippin eck Wendy I bet 99.9% of us on here have been where you are now at some point.... it's a trial run and now you know you can do it and what you need to do to deal with that as situation. Never give up giving up hun 😊

You need to tell everyone that you have given up, that way your friends and family can give you a bit extra support 😊😊

Good luck with it, you know you can do this 😊😊🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

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monkyAdministrator35 Months Winner

Rite Wendy, for one thing, THANKYOU very much for being soo honest with us :) :) and there is nothing to be ashamed about gal :) :) cos these things happen :o ok :)

We just have to turn the clock back and think to our selves, ''WHY'' did we have that smoke !!!! Would we of had that smoke if your daughters friend wasnt their :o Cos I suspect your daughter had a couple as well eh :o

Try to learn from this :) you now know temptation is very tempting eh :o sooooo, if your daughters friend comes to stay again, '' NO CIGGIES ALLOWED IN THIS HOUSE ''

All it takes is one puff :o hence the saying NOPE, Not One puff Ever :) :)

Wendy, if you and your daughter havent allready, then please write a list of the WHY's you want to quit :) and stick them around the house, soo you keep getting a reminder of the WHY's you want to quit :) and never ever forget, we are just a couple of clicks away :) :)

You and your daughter take care now :) :)

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wendywoo66LONG TERM WINNER in reply to monky

Yes youre right my daughter did smoke over the weekend and came home yesterday with a packet of fags. She is fed up too. But both of us want to stick with it. Once we get back on track we will have to see this as a lesson to be learned and not allow smokers in the house until we are sure we can both resist. Thanks for all your comments guys.

Don't be ashamed it happens I was off them 5 months and went back on them its not easy .Dust yourself off and start again .You have great support on here from everybody .No body on here is going to think any less of you a lot of people relapse its a hard road but we will help you stay on it . Your not alone stay strong stay on here and you will beat this .

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glolinLONG TERM WINNER

For you Wendy

youtube.com/watch?v=puQMurK...

It took me a good 10 tries to finally quit. This time was different. I was ready.

You should never feel ashamed for trying. You will beat this ugly addiction, I'm sure of it. Keep this group close by, there's always somebody awake to help you or just talk. :)

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madametobacco49

Not the end of the world--Like learning to ride a horse--you may fall off but if you do and you really want to learn to ride you dust yourself off and get back on--Keep tryin--you are only human--We learn from our mistakes--Now saddle up and try to stay on this time--If not--don't beat yourself up because in time you will get tired of taking a beating and give up--so stop that--ok?? Good Luck today--Hey!! Its a new day--Begin again Hugs

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