need a support group

[sherry24]

hey guys im on the verge of breaking up with my girlfriend because of rocd (cheating ocd) and just because im in this situation it doesnt mean you will at all and my antidepressants have ruined my health so i had to stop using them and im going crazy from insane heartbreak and ocd do you have any suggestions or suggestions from a therapist and i need someone to talk to pls help thanks

[deValentin]

Is your relationship breaking down because you have false memories of cheating?

[sherry24 in reply to deValentin]

yes we've broken up because i couldnt handle the guilt and who knows if its false memories maybe im just an evil person at this point

[deValentin in reply to sherry24]

I understand your guilt because who knows whether it's false memories, who knows you're an evil person. It's not probable otherwise you wouldn't feel so guilty, but it's possible. There are no absolute certainties in life.

As you're open to the possibility of the worst-case scenario (you're an evil person), can you also be open to the possibility of the best-case scenario (you're a decent person)? Maybe you find it difficult to be open to the best possibility (your memories of cheating are false) because your morale and self-esteem are low. Maybe you find it difficult to be reasonably sure your memories of cheating are false because you require absolute certainties.

Waiting to get absolute certainty in regard to the validity of your memories before returning to a normal life is demoralizing in the end because it's impossible to get absolute certainties, therefore you can’t return to a normal life. So, after a while, you lose faith in your ability to live a sensible life, but you can’t stop trying to settle the issue that’s disturbing you because you don’t see any other way to return to a normal life.

If, based on evidence and common sense, and after reasonable examination (not too short or too long) of your past, you don't see any reasons to believe your memories of cheating are true, why can't you drop the issue and move your attention to some other interests? I know it's difficult and it takes time to get used to some uncertainties, but it's worth it in the end.

[7Brigade]

You need to read the KJV Holybook.