I often find myself irritated when I think about the people who are currently in my life , and those who are no longer , sure it is crucial to experience bad company and learn from them and then later appreciate the good , but i am sick of having my time wasted .
For once it would be nice to feel as though there is some form of consistency with people other than my family, i get tired of regaining trust , trust in people I barely have to begin with. I hate being vulnerable, for the same people to somehow disappear or to show themselves only at their own convenience, I’d rather be alone and distant
It’s annoying to form bonds with people simply for them to slowly fade away in your life , im sick of wasting my time
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You are not alone, life and friendships are hard and looking for friends who stick by us through thick and thin are very rare, personally I find friends generally are only interested in themselves, sad to say. My family is just as bad so I prefer my own thoughts, Wife and Dog, Pax.
The only problem I find is if one of us dies, including Pax We will really feel it bad if Pax goes, He will make a place for us with our old dog Pip on the other side.
If we loose Pax we will hopefully start travelling again if the virus burns out
I’m usually the loyal friend , i hate people I’m really tired of wearing my heart on my sleeve but idk how not to people hurt my feelings all the time and I’d love to give people a taste of their own garbage but I’m not built that way , i never feel right afterwards once i get rude
Personally I reserve my judgement and prefer to just walk away. Sometimes saying nothing is the best option, Silence is sometimes the most effective way to move on
BOB
I hear ya..ditto ,n i have gone through exactly the same.....What i do is..bluntly tell potential friends..i need ya in 100 percent equally if we r gonna have a friendship.I need a two way street.
Yeah that may sound brutal but im tired of being there for others whenever they need me n when i need them..they r non existent or have no clue im struggling.Im not being mean..im being honest n just only want true everlasting friends.Guess it depends what ya want in ur life.
Ya i admire people like you that can be straight up and communicate your wants and needs well, i am way too soft spoken a lot of the time , it’s something I’ve struggled with all my life
I was definitely not always like this.I was shy n the mouse in the corner.I guess u get fed up enough u have to set boundaries.It would make me super sad if someone said screw u..not doin that but..then i guess its not meant to be ultimately n not true friend material.
Plus a couple of true friends is better than a bunch of friends u cant trust n count on.
There is no such thing as a true friend, not in my life anyhow apart from my husband he is my friend as well as my husband, others just use you get to know your business then drop you, they tell everyone else your business and they add on to it, before you know where you are your name is ruined. People, so called friends are so shallow it's enough to make you fight back but then you get into trouble, just can't win.
That is so me, I too am lucky enough to have a husband who is also my friend. I have been hurt too by people I trusted. Exactly as you said when I fought back they spread lies to ruin my name
Oh Roxylox thought nobody would ever understand how bad this makes you feel, it has taken just 1 person to ruin all but 1 couple about the things she must of added on. When we first moved in, my home village, she was so good to us for quite some time even took me shopping, ask me in for coffee, chatted to us both when she saw us in the garden or when we went out walking, then I had a wet room fitted via my occupational therapist (I am registered disabled), when it was finished my dear late mum was here at home and she knocked on the back door although it was open, saying "I have just come to have a word with Fay", my mum who had popped in from shopping and her car was outside. So called her in and mum said to her, have a look at my new bathroom, I asked her to excuse the talc on the floor as not long been out of the shower, "never use it as it is only dust from rocks", I did not reply. Then came "oh we, her and lodger who was such a lovely man, could have had one but Bill doesn't like showers", the look on her face said it all so we just changed the subject.
This "woman" even tried to take my dear mum away from me, I tried so hard to tell my mum what she was like but my poor mum and husband got "caught" by her too as she suddenly stopped going up to see them just like she stopped calling round to us. As soon as she got you into her confidence then off she went gossiping and adding bits along the way, and she is still at it. 3 new neighbours moved here at different times, one of which turned out to be a nightmare A.S.B neighbour but that's still ongoing after 4 years of him moving in, but she has made a point of using them just like she did us, both my husband and I all of a sudden were ignored by one particular married couple who she had been all over, in truth we have had 3 different neighbours before this one and she has "muscled" in all of them by telling them things about us then adding more as she could.
Know one thing this person has so much history herself but it will not be me or my husband who tells anyone as we are not that kind of people, maybe she will trip herself up one day and it will serve her right.
Hope you and your husband have put right this person or just left them to it, let them talk because as long as you both know the truth that's all that matters.
Bless you for your thoughts and for replying to me, take care xxxx
I am so sorry you had to experience such a person. I expect her behavior was her strange way of dealing with her own issues. Lucky you and your husband are strong people, as are we when we want as you have made me realise, thank you 😊
I can relate. I would have trust issues where people are concerned because though I'm a friendly and caring person, people can't seem to see it and think I'm weird
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