feeling off

[Doggielover16]

me and my boyfriend have had are ups and downs but lately we have gotten better. I have been feeling off . I’m perfectly fine when I’m around him but the moment I’m not I feel out of it and like I’m a waste of space and like I need to be doing something but idk what. He’s not very empathetic or sympathetic, that’s just who he his, but he does try. He told me it’s okay when I brought this up. I’m just feeling off. Is it just because I miss him or is it separation anxiety? Any advice?

[CLB1125]

research co-dependency and see if it describes your feelings.

[Doggielover16 in reply to CLB1125]

Umm yes it does for the most part. Any advice on how to not be so codependent? I only get those feelings every now and then but it bothers me, so any advice is welcome!

[Doggielover16 in reply to CLB1125]

Any advice will do. I just need something to try to maybe make it better

[CLB1125]

maybe try doing something you like to do by yourself that you normally would do together, take a walk, movie, shopping? Just a suggestion. Sometimes in relationships we lose ourselves as individuals. I’ve been married for 41 years. My daughter says to me, you and dad should get a will and tell us what you want done if something happens to you at the same time. We spend so much time together we’ve become one unit.

[Doggielover16 in reply to CLB1125]

Is it normal to be co-dependent? I’ve heard about it before. My boyfriend even said that I’m too co-dependent before, that was about a year ago. Is it a bad thing?

[CLB1125]

I can’t say. I don’t know. I would think if it’s excessive enough it could be a problem for you to be independent. It would be a good idea to discuss it with your dr or therapist. They would be the best people to help you figure it out.

[Doggielover16 in reply to CLB1125]

Alright thank you! I have an appointment coming up soon anyways so I’ll bring it up