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Gaby0
Gaby0

Two of my nieces and my nephew are sleeping over tonight. Idky but it makes me stressed. I find these kids I love, annoying and loud. It stresses me to the point of depression. I’m out of my routine and can’t watch my show and chill like I usually can and that’s very difficult for me. It makes me scared that I won’t ever be able to have children of my own because it will be too much for me and I won’t be able to be there for them like I should. I have no one that I feel like I could talk to about this or any other depressing thoughts. I speak to my therapist about it but that’s only once a week and I can’t just call her when I need someone to listen. I just wanna watch my show in bed.

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Hello Gaby0 depending on the age of ur nieces n nephew,adults usually arent wanted aroundSad but true.Kids like to do there own thing.Yes as adults we need to make sure they r safe but my suggestion..if they r not younger kids..give them food n let them do there thing.Check in on them every now n then but..

Take care of u yourself n find a good book,music,a drink or a yummy n try to settle ur mind n ur body will follow.

If the kids r young..guarantee they may not last till midnite n will pass out from sugar,lol

Gaby0
Gaby0
in reply to hippolove1

They’re young and want to play with me but I find it to be a lot. They are going to sleep and I have to say I’m excited

hippolove1
hippolove1
in reply to Gaby0

The minute they go to sleep,make it "u "time☺ p.s.Sleepytime tea or earl grey tea is good if they wake up..that will knock them back out,lol

Gaby0
Gaby0
in reply to hippolove1

Haha thanx!

hippolove1
hippolove1
in reply to Gaby0

No problem..here to help,lol

Do you have to have your nieces?or is it your choice?the feeling your getting is normal I have that with my own kids especially when I’ve got other stuff going off their moaning and things can put my stress levels into a worse state and I get more anxious and depressed and sometimes feel like I want to be depressed in peace lol but at same time I love them for distracting me and taking me away from the depressession

Gaby0
Gaby0
in reply to Afrohair

I offered to babysit them so it was my choice but it is still very hard for me when they are awake

Afrohair
Afrohair
in reply to Gaby0

maybe your emotional state means your not ready to look after them alone yet?how old are you if you don’t mind me asking? You could do with support whilst looking after them or day trips not over night that is a lot !it’s ok to say no to people your feelings come first and it Dosent make you less lovable towards them you just need to look after your mental health

Gaby0
Gaby0
in reply to Afrohair

I’m 20. I’m not by myself. My mom is here too. It’s still a lot for me to be around them even when others are here too.

Afrohair
Afrohair
in reply to Gaby0

Sounds like your doing a lot on nye which your not ready for !i had my first baby at 19 and left home I think this is too much for you at the minute it’s not easy looking after children especially with mental health issues

Gaby0
Gaby0
in reply to Afrohair

Maybe you’re right. That’s amazing that you were able to do that at such a young age. You are such a role model.

Afrohair
Afrohair
in reply to Gaby0

Thankyou though I did find it very difficult I still went to university and achieved a BA honours degree but I had to sacrifice a lot of things like my friends you don’t need that at your age you could be out socialising if your that kind of person set some goals for yourself and always put yourself first as far as you haven’t got any of your own children it’s ok to say no and put yourself first and your mental health.mental health can only get worse with these stressors enjoy 2020 my love x

You need to consider yourself, and the children, You. Just because you did not have children does not mean you should take bad behavior from some Children, not your own. Yes Children are children however boundaries need to be set. We can tolerate so much, and we need to educate them in how to behave. Not doing that makes a rod for our own Back. We are showing disrespect to ourselves, especially when we are ill

BOB

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