I’m lost

[LuzSunshine06]

Hello everyone! I’m new here. Honestly I’m feeling down every day since I lost my pregnancy (three months ago). I had a hard time while I was pregnant, my ex partner didn’t want our baby and I was crying every day. In the 3rd pregnancy exam, doctors told me my baby couldn’t live because she had a genetic problem. It was the worst day in my life. I wanted to die. My ex partner told me good luck and goodbye. I had to decide to abort a few days later. I won’t forget the pain that I had in the abortion. I’ll never forget how my ex partner was while I was feeling depressed. I feel so unlucky and now it is around three months that I lost my baby and I can’t overcome it. I’ve sent a lot of messages to my ex partner but he never responded and my family is not exactly a caring family. Nobody know how I feel and how I live everyday. I’ve tried to find a job but it’s hard and I don’t feel any emotion to do something. Honestly, I don’t see how to continue. I’ve gone to doctor and they gave me medication but it’s not working either. I’m at home every day sleeping and eating and sleeping again. I’m 27 y.o and I’m desesperated. If somebody has been in a similar situation I’d like to know how to overcome it. Thanks for reading.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello LuzSunshine06,

Welcome to our supportive community. Well done for taking a brave step out of your comfort zone to reach out for help. Hopefully, you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences. You are obviously having a difficult time right now, and I would urge you to make an appointment to speak to your doctor about how you are feeling. He/she can refer you to your local mental health services where there should be a range of therapy options available to you such as Talking Therapies as well as medications.

It is unclear from your profile which country you live in, but if you are in the UK, check out this link for more information to help you with your feelings after an abortion, what you are experiencing is not uncommon:

British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS):

bpas.org/abortion-care/abor...

Tel.Helpline: 03457 30 40 30

Do check out our Pinned Post section for our downloadable free mental health guides, international crisis support helplines: healthunlocked.com/mental-h...

If you live in the UK keep these crisis support helplines handy:

**New** Give us a shout for support in crisis: Text 85258 (24 hrs support) giveusashout.org/

The Samaritans Tel: 116 123 [24 hours line]

NHS: 999 [Emergencies]

NHS 111 [Non-Emergencies]

MIND UK charity: Helpline Tel: [phone] [e-mail] Text: 86463 mind.org.uk/information-sup...

SANEline Tel: [phone] [4.30pm – 10.30pm daily] sane.org.uk/

Keep in touch! Ok, folks can you pop by and offer support to this new member?

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

[LuzSunshine06 in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thanks MAS_Nurse I really appreciate your support. I’ll ask for help

[56artist_]

I had an abortion many years ago. I do know kind of how you feel. As far as this ex of yours let him go. After 2 bad marriages 18 and 17 years with them I am free of their abuse and happy. D o not allow them to destroy you. Look for the bright light at the end of the tunnel. We live and learn.It is all part of learning. Never stop living for you. Be strong.

[LuzSunshine06 in reply to 56artist_]

Thanks for supporting me. I really feel more motivated with it. I know I need to overcome it. Sometimes people say to me, no worries everything is ok, you’re going to overcome it, it’s common. But nobody knows how I feel if they haven’t had this experience. Thanks

[sindia3b]

You dont forget You Just lrearn to accept and move on. I was in a similzr siruation 30 years zgo but I still get upset. I feel so guilty. No one knows only mum and dad and they took ot to the grave

Have u had counselling

Best wishes

[Hidden]

Welcome to this site Luz

It is important as explained above you are able to talk out your loss and the indifference shown by your ex-Partner. It will take time for you to move on so you need to be just kind to yourself, also try not to judge yourself as it looks like your baby had a genetic problem and given that this loss may have been a blessing for you and child.

Live for the future, your expectations will eventually be realized and you will eventually move on to a more pleasant future

Keep a hold

BOB

[56artist_]

Thank you for replying to me now why I know people can say to us sometimes it'll be okay you'll get over it it's not that easy I know but you be strong and I never meant to say oh you'll get over I just meant to say don't let it get the best of you I've I've suffered many kinds of abuse since I was five and I'm 57 so it's taken me a lifetime to overcome my past you take care and love you