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Tomorrow is the day I see him after a long dreaded week. And I’m so scared. Like. I know I’m in a relationship with him but I’m scared that once I fully explain he’ll walk away. Part of our conversations make it seem that way but part makes it seem like he wants us to work out. He’s offering to sit in a park to talk and then go for dinner together in which he wants to pay for and claims “it’s his job to pay”. I just want everything to work but I’m so scared. Attached is a picture of the both of us (probably the nicest one we have. The others are mainly silly) and I can’t express how much I love him. But he doesn’t believe I do. He thinks I just fooled myself into thinking it because I needed someone. My hearts racing and I can feel my pulse in my head. Ears ringing. Help...

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Many of us on this site will know how you feel. All I can suggest is just live for the day/week and do not gallop to make any decisions, you both look good together try not to frighten him of, just get to know him and He will relax and appreciate the moments you have

Good Luck to you both and keep a hold

BOB

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chxz7 in reply to

Thank you, I’ll try

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jane93p

Don’t over think it too much, if he truly loves you he’ll stay by your side. You will be okay whatever the outcome is. You’re over thinking for sure, try and relax. You got this 😘

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chxz7 in reply to jane93p

I hope I do. Thank you 😘

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jane93p

Message me if you need to tomorrow! 😊

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chxz7 in reply to jane93p

I will! Thank you!

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hypercat54

Hi I wouldn't overload him with your problems and downplay it as much as possible. It can only worsen his thoughts that you don't love him but just need him because of your issues. Good luck. x

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chxz7 in reply to hypercat54

Thank you, and I’m trying to be as basic as possible with him about it as it’s hard for me to talk about in general and as you said, I don’t want to overload him. He just asked me to try to explain everything so he can try to understand better x

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hypercat54 in reply to chxz7

He is a good looking man and I wish I was many years younger! :) x

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chxz7 in reply to hypercat54

I know he is. And he’s an absolute gem too! x

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hypercat54 in reply to chxz7

Wow! Sounds like he is a keeper. Hang on to him. x

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chxz7 in reply to hypercat54

I will x

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Celtic27

Hi there chxz7 why are you so worried about your relationship you sound like you are happy couple I would worry that you may over think a situation that is not there it sounds like this guy loves you try and sit down and talk about how you can make your relationship stronger and be grateful for each day you are in this great relationship! I truelly wish you both all the best!

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chxz7 in reply to Celtic27

Thank you and we truly are happy, well, until his friends tried ruining our happiness. Tomorrow I see him for the first time since the friends incident and I guess that’s why I’m so scared. I quite literally treasure this relationship I have with him through love, care and genuine happiness. Thank you for your kind words!

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chxz7 in reply to Celtic27

Thank you and we truly are happy, well, until his friends tried ruining our happiness. Tomorrow I see him for the first time since the friends incident and I guess that’s why I’m so scared. I quite literally treasure this relationship I have with him through love, care and genuine happiness. Thank you for your kind words!

Sometimes I have to just take it one hour at a time. Anything more is overwhelming. You are an amazing person who it totally worthy of love. We’re here for you in healthy ways. Hugs.

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❤️

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Mickle13

Hi! I hope the date went well and that your fears were allayed. It sounds like maybe he's the one feeling insecure. He's uncertain of how you feel about him. You should always be wary of whom you choose to trust to share your feelings with. It makes you vulnerable. But if you've been seeing him for awhile, disclosing some things you haven't felt secure enough to confide in him up til now could help ease the discomfort you both feel. If he really cares for you, he'll accept you, warts and all! 😃

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chxz7 in reply to Mickle13

Hi! It went quite well but I could tell we were both nervous at first due to it being such a big thing for me to speak about. He’s said he still doesn’t fully understand but he’s willing to try to support me and everything’s been going quite well since! He really does care as after I was speaking and crying a little he just pulled me close into him and held me which in that moment was exactly what was needed!

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Mickle13 in reply to chxz7

Good for you for confiding in him! I'm impressed. It wasn't an easy thing to do.

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chxz7 in reply to Mickle13

It really wasn’t but I’m glad I can be more open with him if I’m having a bad day and knowing he’s going to try his hardest to support me

Hello!! I hope your date went great!! Lots of good wishes for your future!! You guys look so cute together!!! And I must say I love your hair colour. It looks so fun and unique and simlpy amazing!!

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Thank you! It went well thankfully! And thank you it is very unique and gets a lot of compliments because it’s never normally seen!!

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Mickle13

Be patient with him. It's really hard for people who don't have depression and anxiety issues to understand, and sometimes it's hard for them to know how to help. But even if he can't relate, he can still support you. As time goes by he'll learn how your issues affect you, and the two of you can work out how he can support you.

I wish you the best. And your community here can help!

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chxz7 in reply to Mickle13

Thank you! I’m being very patient with him! I just feel like he’s embarrassed of me as he’ll never allow me near his friends since knowing this. It’s hard but I understand why he never mentions me anymore. I continue to try with him as he continues to try for me

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Mickle13

Hi! There's such a stigma about mental illness that people don't know how to deal with it. Your approach of working with him is a wise one. At some point, though, if he just can't accept you as you are you may want to re-evaluate your relationship. Staying with someone who doesn't accept you as you are is actually a rejection that you can't afford to tolerate. You deserve his support, even if he doesn't understand! It could take some time. Try to be aware when it becomes destructive for you. Speaking from experience (I'm an old lady, after all), the cool person you are begins to disappear, bit by bit. Before you know it, you find yourself believing the negative stuff your partner is putting out, wondering what happened to the real you.

I was married to a sociopath for 8 years, and ended up believing that I was inadequate, undeserving of being treated with respect. I'm lucky he decided to marry my best friend, or I may never have had the confidence to divorce him. Having the "security" of a significant other who doesn't support you is far worse than being on your own!

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chxz7 in reply to Mickle13

I completely understand this. I’m going to give it a few weeks and if he doesn’t seem to be supporting or accepting me I’m going to do what’s best for me! At the minute it’s still new to him hence why I’m giving him a bit of time to at least try

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Mickle13

Good for you! You're smarter than I was at your age!

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