Better day today!?.. But tomorrow unsure..

I had quite a nice day at work today, was told the cakes and muffins I brought in were heavenly! (Hand made)

I think I might make a cake for my birthday in a couple of weeks, just feel sad cause it's another year without my mum being there. Never gets any easier each birthday but I love how my family try and make it lovely and they don't even need to try

I'm going to be alone tomorrow for most of the day and I feel quite scared and anxious as it's one of my greatest fears being alone, I know I have my pets but I would rather have my husband here but he's gotta work and it's his best friends birthday. I can't say no to him going out after work especially when he is working so so hard. bless him.

Feel so alone, and don't know what to do

[Suzie40]

Why don't you go out shopping? Even if you're on your own, it never feels like you are if you're in a busy place. Or make the most of the sunshine and sit in the garden with a book? X

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Oh that sounds lovely reading a book outside, as sadly I don't have any money to go out shopping as all money goes on bills. I can't remember the last time I went shopping for myself! Thank you for your message.. Reading it is x

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What will you read? I need a good book for holiday, but can't decide what to get! X

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Oh, hope you have a nice holiday!! What kind of books do you like to read? x

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Jodi Picoult is an author I like, but she hasn't written anything good in a while. Couple of friends of mine are really into crime dramas and they keep getting me to try them!

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Have a look at Coleen Hoover, with "maybe someday" I just finished reading that book and really loved it as my friend at work kept telling me to read it too! Might be something like Jodi Picoult as I looked at the blurb for one of her books x

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It's a easy read and a fantastic page turner for a holiday x

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I'm just looking on amazon now! Thanks for the recommendation! X

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No problem or my favourite author of all time is Michelle Moran, love all her books! X

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give yourself time. it can take upwards of two years to sort out

Some councellors I understand feel that grief becomes a talking matter, much later after the death

BOB

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Thank you for your reply really appreciate it x

[missbelle]

I feel alone sometimes. It's my fault. I shut people out. But luckily there is a little cat next door that wanders into my place now and then. He's such a sweetheart. Have you considered getting a cat or dog?

I am so glad you are creating through baking!!! I love this. I wish I could have a little bit of that.

Hang in there, Michelle. Focus on something addictive like a video game or tv series in downtime.

Eventually it might be nice to find peace to connect with yourself. I think its hard to go from connecting with others to connecting to yourself.

Much Love,

-Mya

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Aw that's very kind of you but I'm not much of TV or games really, had borderline ADHD so sitting down for more than 5 mins is difficult

I have 4 dogs, 6 golds fish, 2 budgies, 3 hamsters and a bunny rabbit .. I love them all so much and they always keep me busy but my mine wonders onto other thing sadly ... Thank you very much for your message i will take it on board, but I don't think I could have another pet, as much as I'd want to x

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Aw I hope that things go smoothly for you right now and that your mood heightens.

Sending good vibes your way. <3

[user_2]

So sorry I know exactly how u feel, I do go through those feelings often too.

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Hi Michelle

If today is the day you are alone then I'll be honest & hope you don't read this until much, much later as it will perhaps mean you've been keeping busy today. If you are reading this then I would definitely recommend getting out of the house. Get some fresh air as sitting around at home or just staying in could allow you time to think about the things that will upset you or make you feel down. You mentioned you have four dogs, are you able to take two out for a long walk and then take the other two out? This will give you a bit of exercise & get the old endorphins running round your system and it will knacker you out lol. Or perhaps if you bake that cake you were talking about. Consider if a practice run for the birthday cake you're going to do. Put on some upbeat music, dance around the kitchen & make a mess.

Whatever you decide to do I hope you have as good a day as you can & do try not to let the bad, upsetting thoughts in & spoil the day for you.

James

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Yes today is the day of being alone.

sounds perfect when I'm baking I usually get flour everywhere !! Thank you James, sounds like a great plan

I'm feeling pretty positive today considering I'm already on my own thank you

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Good girl

If you do bake a cake could you do me a favour? Once it's finished take a pic & change your profile pic please. Just for the rest of the day so we can all admire your skills & feel a little jealous lol

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I will, I'm making a white chocolate flan/mouse with a biscuit base and maltesers on the top, to dye for! have to wait for it to set one I've melted all the chocolate and other ingredients

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Making me jealous & hungry already

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Me too James.x

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You ok?

[Photogeek in reply to Hidden]

Michelle that's sounds delish. Mmm.

If I lived near you I would be around to you for

A slice. Your making our mouths water. Lol.

Enjoy it.

Hannah xx

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Hi Michelle , I like baking too, I always feel better after. Hope

You get on ok. We are here anyway for a chat .

Hugs

Hannah

[SCORPIOQUEEN]

Hey Michelle,

You're never alone. you have millions of friends and supporters on Health Unlocked. You have me!

Being alone was one of my greatest fears! and trust me the mind does wonder when we're alone. We tend to think of negative things and we tend to dwell on past. But something I've learnt that helps is writing. Writing your feelings and thoughts out really helps believe me. I've noticed you mention baking? do you like to bake? I love baking and baking gets my mind off a lot!

I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I'm sure she's always around you no matter what. try talking to her on those lonely days.

Hope to hear from you!

xo