Life! Why is life so difficult?

[Helen89]

Hi. I am struggling with my mental health. I have been in the UK for 2 years and a I find it so difficult. Coming from outside Uk I encountered so many people that had a very terrible opinion about my country or the people coming to work in the Uk from my country. They would talk nicely but act terible. As it's my first time living so far away from my country, my family and friends I found myself in a teribble state of mind. Maybe my situation isn't as teribble as other people posting here but I haven't explained enough about me. I am almost 30, I lived my life supporting my parents emotionally for a long time, have a father suffering of dementia who tried to kill my mom, also a brother who doesn't care about his family and does drugs. Lost my job recently and find it difficut to start a new one in my present condition. One of the biggest issue is having no friends in this country, by friends I mean people close enough to understand me not people who go around gossiping about me with every chance they've got. Unfortunatly I can't even say anything to my family as my mom is having her one share taking care of my dad. All my life I had to be like a rock for everybody around me and now I feel like a pile of pebbles. I have strong morale values and every mistake I do in life I take it as I committed a great sin. All of these negative feeling are pulling me down and I wish I had someone around me to go to and cry until I get rid of them. What should I do? Live? How? Day by day? Hour by hour? All my friends have a family. They got married, had children. They have greater worries then hearing me complain about my pathetic life. Everybody is a judge. They say that I should have left my parents long time ago and have done something for myself. But I ask you, would you leave your parents? Be selfish and care only about yourself? Ignor your mothers cry when she is getting hit by your father everytime he drinks? Are you human? Sorry for my lamenting. I hope whoever reads this doesn't criticise and just listen to a person's cry of help. Say kind words to someone who is hurt and let's all stop being hurtful to those around us. Thank you

[Moka21]

Hi Helen89! From my perspective, you're a very strong and brave person. I think most people would choose to give up but you're still holding on and keep supporting your parents. That's not sth anyone with weak soul can do. So i hope u keep holding on a little longer and I'm sure someday good things will happen to u because you're a very kind and strong person.

Best wish from Cambodia (:

[Add2]

As you said, your life is much better than alot of people here, you may suffer from some problems, but it apart of every other person life. Be thankful, try to solve your problems and engoy your life.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Helen,

Welcome to our supportive community. Well done for taking a brave step out of your comfort zone to reach out for help. Hopefully, you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences.

You are obviously having a difficult time right now, and your experiences and feeling are very valid. You have shown how resilient you are. But we all need support from time to time. By removing yourself from your family situation you are giving yourself time to heal, to get help, to be stronger to enable you to support your family. I am very concerned about the domestic abuse your mum is experiencing. Have you discussed this with your mum's GP or local mental health services, as it seems your dad needs support for his dementia, as well as protection for your mum? As you are in the UK, have a chat with your new GP and get some help and advice. They can refer you to your local mental health team for talking therapies.

Do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, international crisis support helplines. As you live in the UK keep these crisis support helplines handy:

The Samaritans Tel: 116 123 [24 hours line]

NHS: 999 [Emergencies]

NHS 111 [Non-Emergencies]

MIND UK charity: Helpline Tel: [phone] [e-mail] Text: 86463 mind.org.uk/information-sup...

SANEline Tel: [phone] [4.30pm – 10.30pm daily] sane.org.uk/

Stay in touch.

Keep in touch! Ok, folks what can you suggest to help this new member?

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

[Strike3]

I feel the same about life at times.