Lost and hopeless

[TDM2023]

I've looked after my partner for the last 2 years, our lives have fallen apart and I'm worn out. I've fallen apart. His needs were physical but I've lost it mentally. I have no hope but I'm not suicidal. I'm just totally down. I have no future. He cannot cope with my negativity but there is no reciprocation of how I sustained everything for him in his time of need. I am isolated. I hate my life.

[Vonus5591]

Look after you first, self care and breather would help. You can only accomplish once you are alright. Take time to do things for you. Use reading, writing and music to help you. Feel you and revive, restore your mental health

Talk to friends etc

[TDM2023 in reply to Vonus5591]

Thank you. Because of our specific circumstances I have no friends to talk to.

[Vonus5591 in reply to TDM2023]

Here people so nice and always give you reply. Please use x 🙏

[LaceyLady in reply to TDM2023]

The Samaritans? Talk to your doctor, Talking therapies?

[Delzek in reply to TDM2023]

You will always have someone! People on here can become Friends. I have friends on here who I talk to. After looking after him for two years You Deserve some "YOU" time. Your partner should be supporting you and if he isn't then it says more about him . Any relationship is a two way thing ,it should never be only one way, if it ever seems a one way thing Talk to him if he doesn't listen then look at positive solutions that at the end of the day may not include him, if he realises that you are strong enough to do what's needed to make you happy with or without him then the attitude just may change!!!

[LadyPenelope]

Oh my dear, I’m so sorry you feel at rock bottom. I wish I could make it all better for you. You really sound at the end of your rope and feel like there’s nothing else life has in store for you. Please don’t lose hope in everything. It’s ok to fall apart but please don’t “think this is all there is to life” I’m glad to note that you’re not suicidal; that means you’re ready to give life one more chance. You’re stronger than you think you are. You can contact me if you need to talk ok.

[TDM2023 in reply to LadyPenelope]

Thank you so much.

[LaceyLady]

I can empathise, but it’s me who has heart problems, T2 Dire betes. We are on holiday and I’ve had a bad fall, terrible bruising on hip/buttock and fire arm. Never ending issues and feeling really down too. 😒

Hubs keeps saying to go home but the holidays been planned for long time, so trying to make the best of it.

See if you can get Talking therapy, talk to dr to find options. YOU need a rest 🙏🏼💗

[Lizzo30]

Organise some "me time " for yourself ?

If you don't become more selfish your relationship is in danger of disintegrating