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[DiamondHeart]

Hi everyone ,

I am suffering today really bad , me a my boyfriend ( who suffers depression ) have split up.

Its killing me inside i feel sick i cant stop crying , we have sort of come to a mutual agreement because we cant carry on how we are.

I don't no if this is what depression dos but he seems to never be happy hes agreed it drives him mad he cant seem to be happy when he has me and our children , I'm a very needy person and i just need to be shown love , i don't think i ask for a lot to just feel like I matter to the person i adore more than anything in the world.

I really don't want this to be the end , but going round in my head is can i trust him why don't i trust him ? why doesn't he care about me !

Any advice be really welcome

[Alicia463]

I'm sorry you're going through this. It can be heartbreaking ending even bad relationships.

Depression thrives on giving you doubt and feeling lonely. People with depression usually push other people away knowingly or not. And it can also form as aggression or irritation. It can even cause you to become fixated in your thoughts. With that being said, can create a toxic relationship if one isn't treating it. You can't just ignore it, you have to deal with it.

My best advice, you need to get yourself on a healthy track to feeling better. If you have children that's your number one concern and they will show you more unconditional love than any man could ever. They love you from the beginning because you are their mother. And they need a parent to focus on them if you both are depressed.

Sit down, focus and write out what is important to you. What are your goals, for yourself, for your child.

You don't need a man that doesn't show you respect or love.

[20Voices]

Any break up of a relationship it is hard, my husband and I broke up when I was diagnosed with depression. I have to say that it is good that you were both able to sit down and talk about it. My husband just moved straight in with another woman, he had told me he was leaving to spend 3 months thinking about our marriage but when I confronted him on where he was going to be be staying he told me he was moving in with this woman even although I knew my sister had offered him a house rent free.

Alicia463's advise is good. If you need to you can have a look and see what support groups are available in your area, maybe sitting down and talking to someone who can help you to sort out your feelings about the relationship and break up and also about what you want to do with your future will help.

Definitely take time to look after yourself so that you are staying healthy for you and your children. You need to remember that they will be hurting too and it will be easier on them if they know you are taking care of yourself.

You will grieve the loss of your partner and the relationship but you will get through this.

Take care.

X

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Diamond heart

If your Partner is suffering depression He needs to go to the Doctor. The main problem I see here is that He has walked away form you and children so you need to persuade Him to go with you to the Surgery.

If you are suffering a Relationship problem, you need to both sit down together and talk out your problems together, you could also arrange a meeting with Marriage Guidance and try and sort your lives out for your Children,s sake

BOB