Sinking back

[n1k17a]

Hi,

I don't write on here much, I just read others posts. But I need someone to talk to that understands how I feel, so I hope you don't mind me posting.

I have just failed an exam that I took a few months ago, I knew it wasn't going to be a good result because of how it went on the day, but it has hurt me more than I thought it would. I feel like I'm sinking back to where I was a year ago, before the medication and before seeing the light again.

I don't want to leave the house and I don't want to see anyone. I haven't been into work and my husband and I keep falling out, because, although he tries, he doesn't really get it.

I really don't know what to do at the moment, I can't concentrate on anything.

Thank you for taking the time to read my babble. xxx

[Daltone]

Can you resit the exam?

[n1k17a in reply to Daltone]

I can, but not until next March.

My family have also said that but it just doesn't help at the moment.

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Hi N1k

Can you do the exam, even if you have to wait until next March?

Don't let this setback spoil things for you. You've done well recently to cope & get to a point where you can see the light. Keep telling yourself that this is a setback & it won't stop you from being happy. It is an annoyance & you'll be able to move on from & pass the exam next time. Feel little sad for a short time & recognise that you've done a lot of good hard work & you don't want that to go to waste.

James

[Stilltrying_]

Hiya, it seems like you have taken it very hard that you failed the exam and maybe there is a bit of a critical voice inside you telling you that "you" are a failure fullstop? I don't know but sometimes a failure in something can trigger these deeper feelings.

Just try and be compassionate with yourself and say you did your best and that you can do it again. I think the feelings will pass soon. It is just a temporary set back and you've gone back for a bit to how you were; we all do it at times; but hopefully you can get over this and carry on moving forwards as you were before once the initial impact of the failure is over. I know it's easy to say but we all fail at things sometimes; it doesn't make the whole of you a failure. Just have another go when you feel up to it and remember that you are not your achievements; you are lovable in yourself because you are you. Hope this helps a little.

[n1k17a]

Good morning, thank you for your replies.

That is exactly what it is - I am a failure. I have wasted a lot of time and money on this, and I failed.

Thank you stilltrying for saying that 'you are not your achievements; you are lovable in yourself because you are you'.... I don't know you, and you don't know me, to say that that is true. But it means a lot, how very kind you are.

I can try and do the exam again in March. But I will certainly not be doing it as a home study again! I was silly to think that I was well enough to work 48 hours a week, and teach myself a higher level qualification at home.

As wrong as this sounds, it's good to know that other people do fail at times. It seems that everyone around me never does anything wrong. But that could just be my blurred vision of life. -x-

[Stilltrying_ in reply to n1k17a]

Yes home study is tough, and what is this about working 48 hours a week and you say you are a failure??? Believe me everyone fails at times and people that say they never do anything wrong are just LYING !!!! We are all human and really life is infinitely precious; be glad for all the things you have whatever they are; do you have your heart, your lungs, your legs, your voice? Whatever you have be grateful and don't think of achievement as the be all and end all in life. Health and integrity rank very high on my list and I just try and reach MY optimal health although for everyone it will be different. Take good care PS Those people never know what is round the corner for them. They may have to cope with a major disability or trauma which will make them re-evaluate their lives and their priorities. None of us are immune or immortal or above anyone else. X

[Adrian12]

We all hide our failings. It takes a strong person to openly admit them you are one of the strong ones. Thats you. Strong & determined. You will do it and be so proud