Thank you for your replies on my post. I have deleted the whole thing, not because of your replies, but because it was so all long and complicated and maybe not really so much about depression really.
Up until all this happened there was absolutely no doubt that he loves me.
But like you said Hannah, I agree that he should be compromising about my family, because no matter what, he loves me and they are still my family. That is what hurts the most right now. Because I suddenly feel so let down by him that he can't see that this will effect the rest of our lives.
We have been trying for a baby. I don't want my family to not be involved in their grandchild's life, but he can't see that right now.
I don't know if it's so bad right now cause it's just happened and all so raw but I have never seen him this angry.
And trust me at the moment I don't really see a positive outcome either, but I don't know where I'd start in taking a step back from him, we are 3 months into a 2 year contract. I'd never be able to rent again if I broke out of a contract.
But do I really want to be apart from him? I don't know. Before this, I knew he loved me. He understood me and supported me and made me the happiest I have ever been.
Is it wrong for me to want him to at least be civil with my parents? But then should I be saying the same about my parents. They did start all this, and then went on to threaten him by saying they would fall out big time.
Ps you asked about why we don't rent from parents anymore. - They needed to sell the property for funds for an op for my sister. It worked out as a good time really, because we had being trying for a baby and because hopefully his girls will be allowed to stay at some point, we needed a bigger house anyway.