Other half tried to top him self

[kittykatsad]

I found my other half on the floor last night with pill bottles around him i called 999 and they got to him in time. He has to stay in a mentail ward for a bit i dont no what to do i cant whatch him hurt himself any more

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Hi Kittykatsad

Thanks for sharing with us.

Is he home with you now?

Has he spoken to you about it?

Amanda

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We're you aware that he was feeling like this?

Lorraine

xxx

[kittykatsad]

He haz had depression for 6-7 mounths now an doctors said it was gettingg better i didnt think so as he was still having thoughts but having thoughys and doing it are two conplitly diffrent things

[Suzie40]

I'm so sorry that this has happened. Have you been able to see him? X

[kittykatsad in reply to Suzie40]

i can only see him once every other day for an hour and a half and hes got to stay in for at least 2 weeks

[coatpin]

gosh what a shock for you,,,,it seems it isnt the first time hes done this. He must have felt really desparate to do this, hes very ill indeed. Most people feel pretty low and desperate but few accually try. Lets hopethe hospital find meds that help.

It must be hard for you,, not knowing how it must feel to be so ill, and what you can do. Honestly all you can do is be there to listen.

I hope if the hospital dont offer it, get some regular counselling, contact a mind group in your area, you need support too.

Maybe reading some of these posts might help you,, a bit to understand a bit more.

The think is,,, to recognise when hes getting ill,, maybe he gets quiet, or,,, you will notice a different pattern of behaviour, and get him to the doctors urgently. Or tell him he must tell someone when hes feeling that low,,, its not fair on you,,, or anyone else who might find him.who cares about him , in that state, (only tell him when hes feeling a bit better)

Its assurance that he is loved, as the illness tells or makes them feel worthless and whats the point in carring on, its like a compulsion to commit suiside. Then the pain will all be over (or that is how it was for me) I used to have this thing,, that was making me feel if I saw blue van, coming from the opposite of the road I had to drive towards it...

After that, it was,,, a blue rope, and I had to climb at the top of the trees, and put the rope round my neck,,, and I will swing nicely, and it , the pain would all be over. Then driving towards oxford,, I was being compelled to get a pipe, and put it round the end of my car and drive to the country lane,,,, I remember crying all the way in the car,,, to my brother and told him how this,,, was happening in my head...No the mental health team didnt help,,, because they read it out of books,,, I nearly broke that day,, the nearest I have ever been. they said they would phone ,,,they didnt, and they would decide by the monday,, well they didnt contact me till the following week,, if ever I needed the help it was then,,, I was so near the edge,, it was scaring me... I hope that has helped you see things from a different point of view... I trained as a counsellor to help in the right way,,, I manage my condition,,, I separate it,,,, the depression=illness and Me,, the one who doesnt feel that way .

take care Linda x I hope that helps

[Hopetobehappy2013]

Im so sorry to hear your sad and difficult story, how awful for you! has he been hurting himself alot? is he having any help/ taking medication?

At least he's in the best place, it would help to talk to the team and him and see where he's at. Sometimes people improve abit, feel abit better, and then can have a bad day - and think, oh no, back here! Recovery is not just steady up, it's still up and down, if you overdo it as well you will plummet as you try to do what you normally would / your energy levels aren't there yet due to depression and can feel like a failure...Also people who didn't have the energy before may then get the energy / motivation to make a plan, and then seem happier as they have made the decision....sometimes people take overdoses not to intentionally kill themselves but to cope / blot things out for a bit. He needs to talk honestly with you about what the problems are so you can both move forward...

It all just takes time / and to have a plan to manage the risk until he feels better. He's lucky to have you xx

I will think of you both xx

[kittykatsad in reply to Hopetobehappy2013]

he has been under a doctor taking meds and CBT but it hasnt heloed at all

[Hopetobehappy2013]

I think you need a careers assessment, and support for you / somebody to be there who is focused on your needs. At least he's in hospital to look at these things again xx

[kittykatsad]

i work as a carer we r young and dont meet the cut for an assessment