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Perhaps this is it?

Incomplete
Incomplete

So. I’m a 25 year old bloke who I genuinely think is at the end of his life.

I’m not fussed, like, I’m just wanting to make sure every preparation and provision which can be in place is.

Hear me out.

I have 14 medical conditions and disabilities. They affect almost every part of my body.

I also will admit now to having what they call severe mental health problems.

So this Coronavirus situation has got me anxious. Mainly because I’m worried I’ll catch this bastard and everyone I care about will suffer with it at best. I live in close quarters with family and a friend and because of the care I need? Self isolation isn’t an option.

So I have decided, before it gets to that point I’m going to make sure I can’t be contagious and kill myself.

I just wondered if this seems like a rational thought process.

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It is not rational. You are loved and your friends and family would be so sad. Please speak to someone immediately. Where are you from?

Incomplete
Incomplete
in reply to mcguc

I’m from Yorkshire I’m the UK

mcguc
mcguc
in reply to Incomplete

That’s a nice place. Have you always lived there?

Incomplete
Incomplete
in reply to mcguc

Yes. Never lived outside of Yorkshire

mcguc
mcguc
in reply to Incomplete

Cool. I’ve been once or twice but not much, it seems lovely (I’m from London). What have you done with your weekend?

Please have some hope for the future medical advances that will inevitably happen, I am 18 years old and have mild scoliosis and I am too very scared of the future back pain I may have, i've also been enduring an ear infection for a 2 months i've been stressing myself out so much, getting a doctors appointment is really hard for me, things will get better !

My honest opinion is that it’s the worst thing you can do. Everyone in this world is anxious and your not the only one. Love is so strong that your family is next to you and they would hurt so bad if you go through with this. Please Tell them your plan immediately so they can help u.. Remember Your a fighter and that’s why your still here.

Speak to your family as soon as possible - your family need you as much as you need them. Be strong, you can get through this.

I’m working on seeing my family more. I just dislike the whole situation you know?

Osidge
OsidgeModerator

You will not save friends, family and carers any hurt. Instead you will give them a hurt which will last forever - the premature loss of you. Stay strong in the love and support that surround you.

Hi,

I honor any of your decision but please consult it with your GP first, simply call them and address your feelings,

keep up with posting, all of us are waiting to talk to you,

cheers

Tywiesz

Incomplete
Incomplete
in reply to Tywiesz

Thank you for the support :)

Been there done that. Some times living or just breathing hurts. The pain grinds the soul, penetrates deeply in every single cell of the existence and squeezes the lungs unmercifully eliminating the most remote possibility of existence. For me the only way out was terminating this hideous and miserable life that I didn’t choose. But then I though for a second and asked myself would I leave this world without finding out what was the reason I came here?. I didn’t have an answer at that time but I agreed to myself to give me a little apart of everyone and everything and find out what really makes me happy and follow that path no matter for how long or where it would take me; today is 10 years after and I found myself and I love myself so much and everything that surrounds me. The mission was me...

This sounds like it was difficult for you.

I just get so drained that I can’t cope... when something like that is going on in the world then happens? I flail around and defo can’t cope

jaglad
jaglad
in reply to Incomplete

"You get drained and can't cope". No, none of us can really. But we work at it, talk to family , friends, strangers ! It does not matter, what matters is that you are not alone. Choose one aspect of your life, good or bad and work on it. If you think you cannot find a way through move to another, then another because you can get through this, you just need to find the right key.

If one thing keeps you looking for that key it should be the realisation that you will leave behind a hole in the lives of your family and friends that will forever be empty.

Good Luck &

Always look on the Bright side of Life...

Hey mate, I know this Corona thing seems scary but it won't last forever. Life in china has almost gone back to normal and we wont be too far behind them. I reckon we have another few weeks of caution ahead of us and then things will begin to go back to how they were. It seems scary at the moment because no one can say for sure how long this will last but your chances of getting it are still slim to none. Life is hard at the best of times and I imagine it must be even harder for you. I think you're incredibly brave and a real inspiration to anyone with or without medical conditions and disabilities! Don't let something like this be the end of you, you are much stronger than this! :)

Incomplete
Incomplete
in reply to kevk8762

Thanks mate, I do appreciate this. It’s just scary as hell you know? I’m not worried about me, because if I catch it and don’t pass it on? Fine by me.

I just don’t want those I care about to suffer because I caught it

Hi,

I dont 'th ink it is the corona thing, it is all underlining condition which has been not addressed in the passed, what we were before. If we were strong no corona virus could possibly touch us. So why are we vornuable is because we have done nothing to be strong. So what ppl do to be strong? Ppl practice, ppl face the thing and build up themselves, I think it requires a lot of work not just complaining about the life being hard, my experience only, don't quote.

cheers

Tywiesz

crstein
crsteinAdministrator

Incomplete your situation sounds challenging and we thank you for reaching out to the community of support, which has already proven itself to be strong.

Am I correct in thinking some of the thoughts and feelings arise during the night? If so, have you thought of contacting Samaritans, samaritans.org/, free phone 116 123, or by email at jo@samaritans.org? They are an excellent listening service that is available at any time of day or night.

I propose this support in addition to the physical and mental health support which I hope you are receiving.

We have a good amount of information on our website that you might find helpful and can direct you to specific forms of support:

menshealthforum.org.uk/

As others have said, do keep the communication going. You are not alone.

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