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So, I'm 21. I'm a wheelchair user. I have serious chronic pain (since birth) in the feet, ankles, legs, knees, hips and lower back. This is caused by permenantly damaged bones and nerves. I also am visually impaired, have asthma, a severe heart problem and a range of metal health problems. I'm not looking for attention. I just want someone who understands you know?

I don't get help for my conditions. They can't put me on most pain killers, it just isn't an option. I always go round on my own, travelling by public transport and everyday I get abuse.

I just can't cope anymore.

I feel like I'm worthless and pointless and hat anything I do will just fail.

I'm at rock bottom. I don't know who else I can talk to. I honestly feel I'd be better off dead.

Is suicide a viable option? Am I less of a man for feeling this way? I feel like I am.

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No, that's not an option

There is help available for you

International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP)

iasp.info/resources/Crisis_...

Please contact Man MOT service to get answers about medical questions.

Monday and Thursday 7-10pm. At other times send an email directly to a GP.

Free. Easy. Anonymous. No appointment needed.

manmot.co.uk

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Robin, thanks for posting. There is help available for you. In the UK, The Samaritans on 116 123 (UK) or samaritans.org are excellent and won't judge or preach. There is also CALM which is particularly targeted at young men (0800 58 58 58 5pm-midnight) thecalmzone.net

You can see your GP or even go into A&E if you are concerned you might harm yourself.

Longer term, is there an organisation for people with your medical condition or a local disabled persons group? Both could be worth contacting.

The Men's Health Forum Man MOT service is there to get answers about medical questions. It's open Monday and Thursday 7-10pm. At other times send an email directly to a GP. Free. Easy. Anonymous. No appointment needed.

manmot.co.uk

Good luck.

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My brother/sister, I cannot tell you that "I understand" because it would be a lie. However, I can relate. As a person who was at the point of committing suicide, there is no shame to feeling how you do or having those thoughts. Many people can relate to having reached rock bottom. We are proud, and you should be to, for reaching out and expressing yourself. Even when there seems to be no hope among the dark clouds of the abyss, your reaching out is a powerful statement. If you are in the U.S. please call the National Prevention Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. If you feel that there is no other option and are at the point of ending it all, please call this number or an ambulance to pick you up for admittance. It is your voice that will change the world. With proper support, you can come out victorious. To whoever you are, I believe in you and the message has been received loud and clear. In that, you have succeeded and shall continue to succeed in the midst of all the perceived failures. You are the light we need. The world needs you, your message. We need you, I need you.

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Thank you, I appreciate it :)

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