Self-love after you've been destroyed

[Not_a_victim]

One of the hardest parts of my trauma has been remembering that I'm not the things I was made to feel like. Not the things i was called...

[Littlecook]

Hi , you are never alone no matter what illness you have, the next person you speak to feels the same as you do today .

[Not_a_victim in reply to Littlecook]

I am definitely open to talk but for some reason this site is hit or miss with messages for me.

[Littlecook in reply to Not_a_victim]

Yes I know it's difficult catching someone to talk to but I always find waiting and someone, will come along In time, you can message me I'm normally on and off most of the day .

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Not_a_victim]

Hi Not_a_victim,

Is this technical issues you are having with chat? If so please let me know and I will let the technical team know.

[Dolphin14 Moderator]

Not_a_victim

This has been one of the hardest parts for me as well.

Years of programming causes so much damage.

You are not those things. You are good and you are worthy. It takes work but you can change the script.

❤️🐬

[Mamamichl]

I had to disown my mother and go low contact with my father to start to heal these thoughts… not to mention get better support group with friends and family. I hated those doom thoughts, and it does take a lot to change them. If possible, look into DBT. It’s what helped me the most.

[Nathalie99 Partner]

I so much agree...we are more than our trauma.

[designguy]

Good for you, that is a real step forward toward your healing. The truth is that there was never anything wrong with you, it was the perpetrators projecting their own crap onto you. I found getting in touch with my anger and rage and venting it towards my perpetrators was very cathartic, I did this by getting in touch with the emotions and just writing them out, venting and not worrying about spelling/grammar, etc... i also went outside and pounded the crap out of rocks while visualizing and venting my perpetrators, it felt really good and released the shame I had.