Late night post

[Candle_lit]

It's been awhile since I posted, I'm not even sure if I mentioned I had my first child 3 yrs ago and finally graduated college. I'm back chiseling through my trauma and on Christmas I decided to walk away and stop fighting to maintain a toxic triggering relationship with my own mom. Yes so sad but nevertheless I told her to pretend I never existed as she recently went to the funeral of one of my childhood rapist and abuser. I no longer can pretend it doesn't matter or hurt. She literally is sick and has no regards and can only say you always mad at me. But I'm proud I finally stopped pretending with her and realized it's okay and dead or alive God knows and he got us. With what's left of me I owe it to my daughter. She needs healing and healthy momma

[Dolphin14 Moderator]

Candle_lit

It's nice to see you back. Congratulations on your baby and graduating. Two very big life events.

I commend you for taking the steps to remove yourself from the toxic relationship with your mother.

I believe it is ok to move on from any unhealthy relationship, even if it's family.

I'm very sorry you were hurt by your mother. I think you are right, it's time to focus on your daughter and yourself in a healthy environment

❤️🐬

[Daylightsaving]

I'm sorry you're in this position, but glad to hear about your daughter and your graduation. Being the one to end a relationship, especially one so complex, is really hard but courageous. Do what you need to to look after yourself 💕

[Mamamichl]

I’m so proud of you for fighting for your own happiness and mental health! I know it’s hard. I was trafficked by my mother as a teen and she still tries to get me to sell my body at 41. I went low contact with my dad and no contact with my mom (divorced) 18 months ago. It was great for my mental health. DBT has also been quite helpful. Keep in mind d that she will never change. If you’re ok with that, keep the relationship… but if not, it may be helpful to move away from contact with her.

[CarnelianAmber]

I had a toxic relationship with my mom, too. The healthiest times of my adult life have been when I lived far enough away to make it difficult to see her too often. I think it’s great that you are putting your daughter and your own health first. <3