Hi everyone. I’m just reaching out here bc I am still having a difficult time.
I have been using some unhealthy coping mechanisms. I realise they are unhealthy but I am finding it difficult to stop leaning on things that bring immediate comfort but don’t help in the long run.
Posting here is a healthier option for me. I feel so disconnected from other people and myself right now.😕 I am really struggling.
Any kind words would be appreciated 💚
BIF
I'm always thinking of you. I'm glad you feel comfortable coming to check in.
I'm sorry you are still having a difficult time and feel so disconnected.
As far as the old coping skills go, I can see why you would need some relief from this fight you have been fighting.
Please be kind to yourself.
❤️🐬
Thank you for your kind words, Dolphin💚💚💚
I wonder if my little guy can cheer you up
I'm glad you've reached out here BIF.
It's here to be a place of welcome, security and honest support... <3
I can appreciate those times where poor coping mechanisms are opted for. They are so ok in the short-term I find, but I always regret them the next day.
I've indulged in food, sweets, wine...... everything I should not.
I can say that having something new in my life, right now, is really really helping me to focus and renew my spirit towards a better daily outlook!
And - tick tock - the wheel slowly turns... and all of the small steps which I decided ad hoc to take, are starting to rebuild that real sense of a renewed life for me right now.
So have heart, take good TLC of yourself and be forgiving of yourself also. Overall, you HAVE to forgive yourself, no matter what/why/how you make decisions or make mistakes. No one else will - and it is so imperative to the healing journey, to forgive oneself. We are human - and we are/were (it seems apparently) never going to be perfect!!?
Recently, I had to give myself a good talking to, to remind myself I am not invincible and my health will suffer from indulgences and mindless actions. I have fobbed myself off many a time, over the years. So I'm trying to hold myself more to account.....
It is hard though, because PTSD and depression absolutely decimated my life completely. Poor habits resulted, which 'fed' me in the short term.
Learning to allow oneself to step back and embrace change/reflection or just being in the moment - these are such important TLC steps that I personally need to incorporate into my life so much more.
I hope you find resolution with/in yourself this springtime....
For me, this time of year is Easter and this is about sorrow turning into the realisation of joy and hope.
Thank you SG for taking the time to respond. I’m glad that you have found something meaningful to add joy to your life! 💚💚💚
It's small steps, each and every step of the way - but what I can say I've found, is that very gradually and slowly, surely, those steps begin to get broader and wider <3
Before you know it, you'll be starting to feel as if you are taking leaps and bounds <3
I am totally with you. Same for me too. The pain We have inside is tooo much. So yep I understand you. No matter what you are an amazing person inside. Never let anyone tell you any different, 💯 percent understand.
Thank for your reply, Wool.
My self-esteem is really low right now and I am not being very nice to myself. You have reminded me how important it is to focus on that.
Thank you 💚
I am very sorry, BrainIsFull. You have been through so much and it is understandable.
Thank you for talking on here.
Taking care of yourself with compassion might help a bit.
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