Help please

[FindingPeace13]

I'm so overwhelmed and I feel like I'm just a burden to my family but I need some help and support from someone who doesn't feel like I'm just a project. I know I probably sound like a pity party but I'm humbly asking for support right now.

[Lindyloo53 Volunteer]

sending a truckload of support. What help are you wanting? It’s useful if you can articulate what you need from the group. People here can share from their own experience how they have coped. In the past I too felt like a burden to my whanau (family). It was not till I addressed that with my whanau I realised in fact that was not how they saw me.

[FindingPeace13 in reply to Lindyloo53]

Thank you sooo much. It feels so good just to hear someone say what you said. My husband is a recovering addict and has recently had really bad back problems so has been on pain meds again and has triggered me a lot because I've had to be in control of the meds again and that's hard. Also there's a lot he can't physically do, so a lot has been placed on my shoulders like with kids needs and driving everywhere and house stuff. He hasn't worked for two weeks and so financially I am really worried. And I can't eat sugar because my body hates it and I ate some today.....so all combined I kinda just lost it and cried A LOT!

[1Mechanic in reply to FindingPeace13]

You are going through alot! Just the injury to your husband alone is alot to take. When you add the kids, well thats two full time jobs right there. Then the house stuff, maybe part time job? Only because you are so busy with two full time jobs that it might become part time. And then the financial stress.

Do you have friends/ other family that can help out financially? I know it hurts to ask, but I think they would understand. Furthermore, you have been busy running around taking care of everyone you love! But, it sounds like you forgot about yourself. Only the most kind hearted, caring, and loving people do that at times. Can you try and do something nice for yourself?

[FindingPeace13]

Thank you so much for your reply. I work at a local school so I'm off for the summer but wondering if I need to work right now but honestly the kids need me at home....and my husband right now for that matter. Our church has helped us a little financially and it's really hard to ask family. Because of my husband's addiction past our family has been judged a lot by both sides of the family and it's been really hard. A lot has been placed on my shoulders for several years and physically and mentally I'm exhausted. I agree that I need to do something for myself but I feel extremely guilty whenever I do thinking I can use that time or money on someone or something that is more needful.

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi FindingPeace13,

Welcome to the community.

It is understandable that you need more support and to have people that understand you.

It is terrible that you are feeling a burden.

It is great you are reaching out because you do deserve support, compassion and feeling equal...

At times it feels like health, symptoms, trauma, is all there is but we are people, who have our individual personality, hopes, dreams, talents.

We are here for you...

[FindingPeace13]

I love that you said that, "we are people, who have our individual personality, hopes, dreams, talents." That us very true and I needed to hear that. ❤