i get upset when people are hurt that are already hurt or anxious.......i have my own baggage of thousands of hours of coachign and not always the top;.........i used to teach koreans who are petrrified of horses........but very rewarding that they wold never hurt them..............so those pepole who see themselves as beginners or fearful and a burden.............ironically if they only knew............we old timers prefer them...........that right..........because they are advanced students who will get on my horses and push them jumping wise or dressage...................does he do this or that maneuver etc ..........and start critiqueing them...................................im polite and suggest we go do someting else...........in my mind ............dude.......................u will never see my horse again or touch him.
we had a young student that had terrrible ptsd from childhood ...rightfully .........long long story...but the instrucotrs and even counselors were totall misreading her............she would cry and cry when the instructors wanted her to be firm with the horses ..............and spend hours grooming and loving the horses in the way the other students..........never did.........obvoulsly her trauma left her understanding what the horses go through and was very loving and very protective............everyone saw her as ...............whereas i took her asdie and as director gave her private lessons in dressage...........beCAUSE i never wold have to teach her to be gentle or senstive...............she was huge gift because i never ever had to worry that she wodl be hard in her hands or hurt the horse............tip of the iceburg of long long story.....
i see.........things very very very differently and resent life.....(should stop here) ....that people are labeled .......and made to think worse.............if i had a protetheisc limb ............get with ohters after depressoion an d lets go to the gym......paralyzed......................get a competitive wheeelchair..............
not saing anxiety doesnt exist .............saying telling someone they blink and and its abyy normal isnt useful from a coahign perspective..............the power of a coach is to take some one who has low confident..........which many of us do.............and i use my belief to emowere them......
see u tomorrow...............but i stink as a rider.
but im terible as an artist.
isaid.....................be here at 8 sharp..........with bells on
but but i cant and ill never and i stink and and
and im scared and
I said.............see u........................8 am .............the journey isnt up ot u.......
u bring your potential..........you try..................i take u the rest of teh way.....
all teh journy is my worry................all u have to do.....is show up.......and try.......we are all scared of someothign
same with schoool..........get a tutor, study hard we all did........we all were petrified in school and worked hard.............but ..............u
are worth your best investment in u...........here and now
but but im
i will be waiting here...............for u................at 8 am .................u show up
u try............i will take u all the way...............no matter if it take a thousand years....................done it with a miiioon milion students.............we all human inclduign us compettitors....
thats what iwa s trying to say............not faultimpeopel for having anzxeity in fact.........just saying.....................its universal..
sorry if i sould gruff........not meant that way............
i refuse ...............to give up ............on anyone ................who wants i bad enough evern if they are scared out of their minds...........most college students are most riding student are..............till they get to know u.
just one mans biiion hours of exereince coaching............think and do what u like.........bring ur teddy ur freinds wahtever makes u feel secure...........
lessons start at 8 am.............your name..............is on that hour..........
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in my class,,,,, even if u just pet the horse or groom the horse.........or wahatever..........................in my class...........there is no such thing as failure as I............no one else.............am the instructor and in total charge...........
the only failure.............is destroying the hopes of others.............now that
is a gigantic moral unforgtivable failure ..........not of the student
of abusive coaches, parents freinds or counselors...........
in my class.................failure ................doesn not exist..............
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You sound a wonderful coach Brig
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I grew up with Beatrice German coaches beat my brains out and my mother just said we couldn’t take criticism
Fortunate to found a patient one or I would have quit
Most people want to pleeese
They are screamed at
Fir things that take time and conditioning but punished wrongly by bad instructors
The hands quiet over time as the core strengthens
Can’t get the morons to stop screaming
Been there hated it can’t hear my horse
Love older students who wantvto go slower
Realky learn
Helps the horse too
Gid bless maturity
And chronological age
Trying to be kind rider and firm communication and connection
Force not necessary with horse well trained and tuned
Others take strength but nit rewarding
The student
Can be. Joy
Oh it’s about commutation not how tough I am
Oh teach my horse to listen and md too and
Oh
Now that’s a gift
She had severe ptsd
Outstanding potential Cry not to hurt the horse
Exactly what I wanted for that quiet horses
She groomed him and loved him for hours
No one else ever came to see him
I see things very differently
Only Luna gives me the chance and others like her
we came from nothing terrible barns and crawled our way up (the mhs system thinks all horsemen are spoiled hunter jumper types- grossly misinformed....like any with an canoe owns a yacht)....its about social justice.......they called me an elitist..which im not........we have to forget the nonsense out there .........its all about social justice.........my experience was to make working with horses and learning..........the shortcuts..........teach people how to pace themselves, how to study, not be afraid to get assistance as prof dont care..., how to get the people the same opportunity as the super wealthy............its takes all of us ...takes an army helping each other, encouraging each other as we all have down days.........no student no teacher..............take moxie to cross the line...........dare to want to be or learn..........takes a lot of guts..........thats good enough for me ..............u show up..............ill take u the rest of the way...........everyone..........is scared to death of failure, doctors nurses teachers, atheletes..........thats why they study so hard.................over preparation............counters the nerves..........everyhone is scared............its a myth that people dont have fears or anxiety...........doesnt exist. thank u.........we all need helpful neighbors..........
whenever i want to learn about a new subject.........i start in the kids books..............now people have the internet but.......there are tricks to learn how to study effectively ..........if u can get people to listen or come in for assistance.............................we..................dont judge......(we privately thrilled)
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thank u LC- u help a great deal.....we competitors have set backs in competiton and life same as our horses.........we just start over and regain rebild our confidence at things were good at.......u try to tell people but they insist on doing things the new age way.........the old works countelss times..........have to be your own best and supportiv eor constructive coach and get rid of neg people........life is too short and im not carrying critics just to amuse them.......sounds harsh but had this my whole life..........train alone if i have to ......owe it to my horse and students to prepare them for the challenges ahead.................my responsibiltiy.......as ive ridden those courses..........faced those exams.
for every rocky.....................there is ...an adriene
nothing witout adriene.
i know about horses as i started at age 8 and had internaltional trainers which i can never talk about.....not be cause we were privaledged but we were their charity cases....used to come to our area to get away from all the stuff..........many multi olympic medalists, the new zealand coach, lot of hard work and endless practice....all fine..........but hard when the system and people just say oh u just had it easy or good start.........they arent cars............horses take 24 hour care.......tack has to be cleaned daily.......endless inspections and jobs to pay for lessons..........no one gave us anything.....rode every piece of junk for expereince.........ive taught for 40 years like a short order cook.................got it down..........but the system crucifies us............because their biases...........i wont...........teach anymore..........except for exceptions...........let the mhs know it alls do it...........if that a ersonality disorder i couldnt care less..........they assume horses are safe and easy and such a glamorous life............(sure for the upper 1 percent)..........
its just repetition........helps the rider and the horse...start at the walk...........start with chop sticks or vocals......start with the fundamentals................everyhone wants the fancy and the new splashy coaches............old timers know...............start with
the abc.s......start with the fundamentals.........pateint student helps an old teacher be patietn.....make work fun or acheivable not impssible or belittle people....................put yhoursel fin your horses or students position..............
only LC and people used to abuse...........get it.....
i ll share with them...................anytime.........just an old teacher....our job isnt to make it harder its to make learning easier and watch the hawks leave the nest...........and slowly master the air...............takes tmie for all creatures.
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all young hunters...lions, eagles birds everthing have to learn to survive from there parents..........young hunters often starve.......
same with what to eat as grzers ..they learn it from mom
why society is so hard on students i do not know..........their mids are not fully formed til in twenty and they have to learn all that we take for granted..........learning is not fun........one of the best ways is to get involved with it or .
be the teacher........who learns more .
proven effective way....
tommy- read the adventures of huck finn to me or ed whose over that the VA hospital
sally- what subjects do u like and tell me all u know...stop next week
this............is the method used in british education and why thier education is so vastly about the usa
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just old time short oder cook that can get fancy...dont enjoy the snooty clients or enlttled.........u ask fantastic questions and are sooo accepting of people.................now that.................is a gift..........
(also democracy) ...
easy to put yourself into horses position....scary.....scary scary..who is this guy, what are his intentions, is he going to hurt me.........etc...............lc is the only one who thinks we have a brain...........before i can work wth them i cant have them be afraid..........or hurting...............blocks communcation and htey cant hear if they are scared.....fortunatley ............with my horses.............i can go as slooooow as i like...............im defiant against abuse, a rebel against demanding riders and trainers............how would u like to be the horse?
same with counselors or doctors............ah doc- would u want to be your patient?
only adriene listens......why make life harder thatn it already is...........its a partnership,,,,four legged or two...............who wants it to be over.........not me..................once u invest in a horse...........the last thing u want is for him or her to leave the farm..........where u know he will have a good home and treated fairly.......
great news- people let me wash dishes at the food handouit drive......man my self esteem is through the roof....chance to help or servie or give and work as work is honor....think work and responsiblity are the ultimate complements and the 9th langueage of respect........v people who talk down to us .....reinforces their view ...wrongly .......regardless of the intetion........tone and ....work is empowerment as u know.......u and others here..........work is ahuge empowerment....lc u alwayslisten..lc u laways listen lc many returns to u..lc .........u kjnow aoubt serivce..thanks for helping me keep going
Luna. Hope u can hear my gratitude and resprct
Brig. That is beautiful.
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many thanks to u and all our kindred freinds here....u all never mock me for beig senstimental........i always had to work never tme for friends....now..........a treasure
yes- u do.........how rare
thu u.. takes two....many would roll their eyes.
young boy lost in the library last night........so so sad and scared..tiny kid......almost cowering scared to death
15 min later..........running and playing in the books .....happy and laughing
difference: one v kind librarian...........has no idea the gift she has
someday i might take a friend for a trail ride.......ill find the safest horses
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What a wonderful idea.
sorry to be slow getting back (big big b bb b b bhelp tk u x trillions)
Was not aware. Seem to vent and anger towards the system
So many myths
So many artifial barriers and misinformation
Only long legged twigs can ride etc
The rest and workers overlooked
What we all know
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So many talented people in my students overlooked because they didn’t fit the model type. Same with ballet
So many over looked because they can’t afford anything
The so called beautiful privaledged people
The world throws them selves at
The rest get crumbs and more work
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The MHs treats all of us as privaledged vets or horsemen
Ya if u like being Cinderella
Or working till u drop and sleeping in the floor. Yep pretty spoiled working 160 hours per week and everyone telling u what a great life u have. See home once a month then get called spoiled by p nurses and shrinks. Oh ya so fun living in the bathroom
Ur the only one who listens they just stereotype
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We’re automatically bad because we know the miktary an evil necessity
They go ballistic No discussions automatically bad
Ur very different
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Remind me pleese to get atv Vehicle companies to donate to the va. Amputees
Carry precious. Cargo
Has to pass myyyyyyy
Interview tests
Lol
Tks
U forget
U help more than u know
Thd goalIn riding is mutism language mutual hearing
Most people would roll their eyes
They are not in our field
Sure brig yep halodol pleese
Their ignorance staggers thd imagination
Only Luna and others give me thine to explain
(she seldom gets the credit )
wish i ...........were the provider..........always wanted to be the mayor of my town........take care of folks
not as boss but make sure people are looked after etc......prob naive but the sentiment is right.........takes a team and u all are sooo differnt than the mean peple of the colleges
helps a ******** lot thks
(not pressing but ..........omg .....die for sharing some thing like a picnic or coffee or slow trail ride.........or whatever..............
cant put it into words but think people get it.............sharing time?????pleasure of your company???)
think u and people get it.........
thank u alll here - thank u thank u thank u thank u thank u for all u do and allow us to not be mocked because we have sentiments....
thank u thank u thank u ............after all i have seen
wnat to see good things- flowers and trees and people creating and music and people having fun and enjoing each toehr with simple things ............etc..etc
when u have seen so much bad.......all u want is to see good peole be happ or not hard times and hold their opets close........and family
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