How to release anger?

[mcginnmx]

Okay if you don’t know me I have survivors guilt. Which I am glad I finally learn the word for it, but it is not due to this epidemic. It actually happen 3 years ago I lost 6 of my family members in one year.Not to mention mental, physical, and sexual abuse. My triggers are death and right now idiocy. Well let me go on you see Florida is in phase 1 which I am unfortunately apart in but there is a couple of problems. Their is a woman sick at my work who keeps working Not knowing what she has. I told my manager there was no one that listen to me. ( His heart is in the right place but he hates conflict). The customers are not wearing masks. Though I work in the back and there is to many people in lunch room at a time. Then I have to hear from my coworkers how it is all a hoax, how China made it and etc. Then I have to come back to two elderly parents one with an autoimmune system other with kidney stones, I have 2 anemia’s, and autoimmune. Getting home I have to disinfect everything and my body is either dizzy ( think about vertigo so bad you can’t get out of bed without falling over)that I have to get orange juice as soon as I am done with laundry.This morning I wanted to punch a wall but I know I can’t cause it will cause damage in my hand and wall. An I have been angry for a long time. It is not good for me to hold all this rage in. How do you guys handle this kind of rage? ( mind you I live with my parents so primal scream is not allowed)

[Beingindependent Volunteer]

I’m sorry you’ve experienced so much in your life. You’re a walking miracle dealing with all of that,

Obviously you are having a lot of anxiety.

Perhaps the people that say it is a hoax are people who never like to deal with reality. They live in their protective world and pretend everyone thinks the way that they do and if they don’t then everyone else is the problem.

Since we rely on others to wear masks that is them caring about us. Yet some people really don’t have any compassion and don’t care about anyone but themselves.

If you can talk to someone in Human Resources. I hope they are receptive.

A good way to deal with anger is: pulling weeds, working in the garden, cutting branches, running, going for walks, creating art, you need an outlet to get rid of what you feel inside.

It’s very hard to not allow other people to increase your level of anger but all you can do is realize you’re at work for yourself.

Save your energy for yourself. You need it.

Take care.

[Agara33]

i'm so sorry you for all you have faced and are facing...florida is really not a good place in these times i understand. different things help for different people--exercise, going to a wilderness places and screaming, screaming into a pillow....

there's also this

3ho.org/kundalini-yoga/kriy...

but be very cautious as kundalini yoga is powerful stuff and you must do it exactly as directions say with the proper customs of start and finish and warm up. if this is even something you are interested in you might want to first take a class with a teacher.

[Ellen6 Major Contributor]

That’s a lot to deal with.

I find running good if I’m feeling angry.

Or if you can’t take exercise and feel urge to punch wall ( I’ve felt that too) then maybe punch into a pillow or cushion

. Must be a strain at times looking after your parents 🌸🌺🌷

[Hidden]

Go out in the woods Way away from anyone

Turn on the water in the bathroom and play very loud music scream

Into a bag

Hey. Hope u can hear this whoever u are

U dis pair because ur heart got ripped out. U despIr in anguish x Sc Nd loss Because I care. And help us

U help

Me

U help me

Indirectly

Swear on ten million bibles

[SavingGrace Administrator]

Oh my dear. That's a lot to deal with.... Freeing oneself from anger - it's like breaking free from chains of steel.

When my anger rises, I've learnt to trust patience, have faith, then love.

For me, I have had to remain within these simple few steps:

Faith, Hope, Love.

It doesn't matter which order you place those in, but sticking with these three, is as simple as it gets in life and a basic way to approach.

I'd add forgiveness, but that comes under love I guess. Patience, under faith and love and hope.

Blessings to you.......

[Equis-Canine Volunteer]

Hi,

I'm so sorry. You are dealing with so many challenges. I hope it helps a little to know that I agree with your view of idiocy and it makes me very angry too.

Sharing your anger here may help release some of your frustration.

Have you tried mentally attaching your anger to a stuffed animal or pillow and punching it for a physical release?

I find choosing the right words to describe what is causing my anger and writing them down is very helpful. I frequently end up crying during the process. Afterwards I'm spent but also calmer and have a clearer head.

I have zero artistic talent .But, I've tried drawing with markers in an abstract way with an open mind. Sometimes something emerges.

I hope one of these suggestions is helpful for you as you deal with these strange times we are living in.

Hugs

[Marnie22 Volunteer]

Trigger warning.

Hi. Have you had any form of trauma focused therapy? The reason I ask is because my primary symptom of PTSD was anger. I would have sudden overwhelming waves of anger that stopped me in my tracks. These waves would last anywhere from a few hours to a couple of days and I wouldn't be able to sleep or eat. It was so horrendous and so unpredictable that I started to have suicidal thoughts.

I attended a dialectical behaviour therapy group, (no help at all,) and saw a psychologist, (no help at all.) This was all before the diagnosis of PTSD. I was diagnosed with PTSD by a neuropsychologist (I have an acquired brain injury,) and through that I got access to EMDR, (referred by my GP.)

The EMDR was almost finished when the coronavirus lockdown meant it had to be suspended, but it has been completely life changing. I don't have the terrible periods of anger any more and the overwhelming emotions have been reprocessed and now don't dominate my life. I don't know how I could have made such progress any other way.

Through this process I learned that if someone has PTSD they specifically need trauma focused therapy delivered by a therapist who is trained in this area because 'normal' therapy can actually make things worse.

I do hope that you find suitable help. 🤔🌸