"When someone shows you who they are believe them" Maya Angelou

[kevere3]

My mother is such a self-centered person. Yet I still try to confide in her over and over and over again and I wish to seek emotional soothing that she is rarely able to give. She shows me this type of behavior over and over and over again. The saying is the true definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I am done. I will seek GOD who is able to heal me. God has shown me who he is I just and I will continue to believe despite setbacks.

[Hidden]

I can relate to this as can so many people I know that experience this. It's such a disappointment and there's always that little bit of hope that maybe this time they will come through and be who we need them to be. My best friend stopped talking to her Mom years ago because she was just done with the sadness and the let down. Once she had her own children she said she could never imagine not being supportive and there. She really saw things with new eyes. For me I am one that knows logically things are limited but still has the little bit of hope. I still tend to get disappointed when I go through something really serious and there is only limited true support but.... I like your idea of it is what it is when people show you who they are. That is true.

[alamagoosa Pioneer]

My sister is a chameleon. She shows all different sides of herself. Whichever gets her what she wants. But I don't know which is the real one. Mom is too. She has no real personality. Maybe she is just hollow. I feel sorry for her. But I can't look in a mirror that has no reflection. That is her face. Nothing is there. I have to accept that she shows herself to be an elusive mystery that can't be solved.